Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Because before I meet some guy from online dating, I want to know that they are who they say they are (where they work, where they go/went to school, etc), that they currently look like the photos they have on their profile, they aren't married or already in a relationship (had that happen once...so glad I caught it, haha), that they have friends/family...those types of things. I don't let them FB friend me right off the bat...that's only after a lot of messages, phone calls, etc. I'm not one to just run and meet a guy after a day or two of talking to him. That's not how I roll.
People put fake info and pictures on facebook also.
You were very lucky. I get that...you aren't going to know if any real spark is there until you meet. But, I'm super-cautious. I blame it on having a mom who worked as a parole analyst, lol...I've heard too many stories, haha. If the guy happens to go to the same school I do, I'm not QUITE as cautious, since it's easy enough to meet up on campus for a soda or something. But for the most part, I take quite a while to get to know them via messages, texts and phone calls before meeting them in person.
You're talking to the wrong chick when it comes to being super cautious. My whole family is in LE and I was headed into it...until I met my husband.
The irony is my father spent his 2nd career doing mostly computer forensics/crimes. That's how I got into computers and messageboards.
Caution is important, also not getting your hopes up. I have been meeting guys and I meet them at the food court of my mall. We walk around the mall or sit in the food court and talk. I come in the mall and park away from the opening and get into my car fast, though as it turns out the guys I have met this time have been decent men.
I made a profile on POF for ****s and giggles mostly, to gauge what type of women are on there. Within 2 days, i received close to 20 messages from mostly fairly attractive women, all willing to meet almost right away. Have dated two of them so far, both were willing to meet me at my place, both were willing andpushing for sex on first date, one of them decided that its unnecessary to even go on a date, instead we just hung at my place, had hours of great sex and she stayed over the next two nights. The kicker is, she isnt looking for FWB or occasional hookup, but rather an actual relationship. Horny women everywhere, and most seem less inhibited than in the past, which i love. I have shut down my POF account after 48 hours becasue i couldnt keep up with the demand. Im 37 years old, and this friday im going on a date with a brazillian 23 yo hottie who's been in the US for 3 weeks, who also has made it clear she wants sex right away. No problem girl, i wont dissapoint.
Well then hopefully you understand where I'm coming from with being cautious, lol.
Again, maybe things are dramatically different from when I was online, but I can't imagine opening up my private life on FB just because I communicated with someone. Then again, I don't post much of my private life on FB because people underestimate how exposed they are.
The reality is that people can edit their lives, especially online. I know for me, viewing someone's actual behaviors and interactions can tell me a lot more than what they write me in a message or text.
I met guys who had great jobs & careers, were good looking, no priors , etc., but once I met them I knew something was off or that we weren't compatible despite having similar interests.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I get that...you aren't going to know if any real spark is there until you meet. But, I'm super-cautious. I blame it on having a mom who worked as a parole analyst, lol...I've heard too many stories, haha. If the guy happens to go to the same school I do, I'm not QUITE as cautious, since it's easy enough to meet up on campus for a soda or something. But for the most part, I take quite a while to get to know them via messages, texts and phone calls before meeting them in person.
, etc., but once I met them I knew something was off or that we weren't compatible despite having similar interests.
