Question for the ladies - if a guy is 40+ and never been married, how do you feel about that? (dating, long-term)

[SomeBodyUK]

Do you think the guy is normal or he has lots of issues? Would you steer clear of him?

I've just added another bit that I forgot to add - would you consider him for a LTR?

[robertpolyglot]

I am tapping my fingers waiting for the interesting answers ...

[mayita]

honestly yes.

[westwind15]

I figure either he is very commitment shy, or way too uninterested in settling down until he started to look at getting old alone and started to panic! Funny thing though, he could have lived with people, even long term, and just never married. Does make me wonder a lot, though, about him!

[Red On The Noodle]

I know a man who is 59 and never married and there is a reason! He cannot even make a commitment to buy a house

[zentropa]

No, I know several of them and they are cool. A couple of my FWBs are unmarried 40+ It's no big deal.

[D. Scott]

So the "Eligible bachelor" thing has gone away? What if the said gentleman was engaged once, Or lived with an SO but never took the plunge for varying reasons? There are more long-term cohabitating couples in the last generation.

This thread should be interesting.

[findly185]

I'm not 40, but as a women who never wants to get married and doesnt believe in marriage, I would completely understand where he's coming from. I dont automatically assume there is something wrong with him or that he has commitment issues. People have an array of reasons for not wanting marriage.

[Dewdroplet76]

Depends on the guy.

[Ascension2012]

im 37, never married with no kids, and it seems like any time i try this relationship thing, i observe the girl snoop around, ask countless questions, overanalyze and try to figure out how that is possible, and try to find something that is wrong with me. it gets very obnoxious. i consantly see women im dating going through my mail, phone, email, medicine cabinet in a very open fashion. wtf?