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Perhaps you can tell her the truth in a way that's not offensive. Something like, "I truly like you and think we're very compatible, but after that kiss the other day I am very disappointed that I'm not feeling any chemistry between us."
I don't agree with that approach.
IMO its better to tell a minor lie in this situation. Than to hurt her feelings. Females are super sensitive in this situation. Especially also since you mentioned she is vulnerable. End of the day, you need to end it one way or another. Better not to hurt her feelings and upset her anymore than you have to.
Just tell her you aren't interested in having a relationship, but don't mention it's because she looks like a dude. Being on the receiving end of comments regarding my looks (ie you're amazing, but you're just not pretty enough for me) I'd rather they lied and just said there wasn't any chemistry instead of saying I wasn't attractive enough.
your friends, nothing more.
dont get involved any further if you know its not what you need. you're just setting yourself up to be "that *******" to her.
be direct with her, you're both grown adults who have taken on the responsibility of trying to find a partner she deserves a proper explanation. you don't have ot go into deep detail, just that you are not physically attracted to her.
that's a wrap. move on with life.
Last edited by rego00123; 09-10-2012 at 09:25 PM..
Oh for god sake, are you adults? Tell her that you didn't find her physically attractive. It's understandable because you have to be physically attractive for someone to have an interest and then it goes from there. Just tell her straight up and if she takes offense then that is her problem. It's not your problem.
Oh for god sake, are you adults? Tell her that you didn't find her physically attractive. It's understandable because you have to be physically attractive for someone to have an interest and then it goes from there. Just tell her straight up and if she takes offense then that is her problem. It's not your problem.
As someone who has been told that I wasn't attractive enough to date I'll have to disagree with this. It will stick with her for the rest of her life. In this instance, I'd rather be lied to.
As someone who has been told that I wasn't attractive enough to date I'll have to disagree with this. It will stick with her for the rest of her life. In this instance, I'd rather be lied to.
We'll agree to disagree then but at least you can improve your physical appearance.
As someone who has been told that I wasn't attractive enough to date I'll have to disagree with this. It will stick with her for the rest of her life. In this instance, I'd rather be lied to.
Exactly.....she will never forget it and probably give her self esteem issues.
As someone who has been told that I wasn't attractive enough to date I'll have to disagree with this. It will stick with her for the rest of her life. In this instance, I'd rather be lied to.
how would this even remotely bother you if it wasn't you so much as HIM not being attracted to you?
that's not his fault if you blame yourself for his lack of physical interest, its nothing you or he could control.
that's a serious personal issue that to me signifies someone having issues with self worth.
its not making anyone better to side step the real issues at hand. its just hiding them away to never be dealt with.
you dont have to be "mean" about saying this to someone, you literally just explain it isn't what right for you...which is the reality of the situation.
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