If your SO push you into a swimming pool, would you break up? (boyfriend, how to)

[Thursday007]

Originally Posted by MarcellaV2

Let's say if it wasn't really done as a joke but rather you guys are arguing at a pool party. Then you're kind of irritated and shoved your bf/gf but only as a ''leave me alone'' type of push. Next thing you know he/she falls in the swimming pool (but not intended, it just happened).

But is that something you would get upset over and not talk to them for more than 5 days or break up?

I wouldn't really break up and would get over that nonsense by the 2nd day. Then again, that's just me. I don't know about you people. Is getting accidentally thrown into a swimming pool by your bf/gf something to react like that?

Not if it were a joke. My own brother pushed me into a mall fountain. He went to grab me before I fell as a joke, but was too late. We eventually laughed about it within a few minutes.

But under the circumstances you are describing YES I would break-up. I would break up with anyone that put their hands on me while arguing. It's uncalled for in any situation. It's just neanderthall and trashy. Raise a hand near me and the last thing you'll have your hands on is the door knob while you are closing it behind you.

[Pammyd]

Originally Posted by MarcellaV2

Let's say if it wasn't really done as a joke but rather you guys are arguing at a pool party. Then you're kind of irritated and shoved your bf/gf but only as a ''leave me alone'' type of push. Next thing you know he/she falls in the swimming pool (but not intended, it just happened).

But is that something you would get upset over and not talk to them for more than 5 days or break up?

I wouldn't really break up and would get over that nonsense by the 2nd day. Then again, that's just me. I don't know about you people. Is getting accidentally thrown into a swimming pool by your bf/gf something to react like that?

Seems to me that this would be a silly reason to break up unless it was done in anger. No one has the right to lay hands on another in anger so if it was done in that context, yes, I would "kick him to the curb".

A friend of mine pushed this guy into our pool one time..fooling around...and the guy had a cell phone in his pocket and his wallet with all his identification in it, pics, etc. His phone was ruined as were some of his photos etc. Was not as funny as it set out to be. Childish if anything.

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by Lilac110

I would dump any man who pushed me, pool or not. You don't put your hands on me in anger. Ever.

Yup, this ^^^^

[Checkered24]

I cannot imagine this even happening, without it being a big shove in anger. I could see someone giving a small "get away from me" push, but who pushes someone enough for them to lose their balance, close enough to a pool that they fall in?

Let me put it this way. If that is how someone I was seeing expressed their anger, a hard shove, enough for me to lose balance and go into a pool, I would not be seeing them any further.

I wouldn't want to be seeing anyone who had a need to express anger physically.

[Raena77]

If the male was standing close to the edge of the pool and you got in his face with your arm "Do you understand me Mister" He could of easily lost his balance and fall in by a light tap.

If he pushed me in I would come out for revenge and push him the hell in! Hahaha

[carlitasway]

Originally Posted by MarcellaV2

Let's say if it wasn't really done as a joke but rather you guys are arguing at a pool party. Then you're kind of irritated and shoved your bf/gf but only as a ''leave me alone'' type of push. Next thing you know he/she falls in the swimming pool (but not intended, it just happened).

But is that something you would get upset over and not talk to them for more than 5 days or break up?

I wouldn't really break up and would get over that nonsense by the 2nd day. Then again, that's just me. I don't know about you people. Is getting accidentally thrown into a swimming pool by your bf/gf something to react like that?

That would totally mean war but I would probably not break up.

[JanND]

Originally Posted by Lilac110

I would dump any man who pushed me, pool or not. You don't put your hands on me in anger. Ever.

This^^^^ Abuse is abuse.....pushing someone in anger is wrong....it doesn't matter where you land.

[TaoistDude]

I'd probably break up with anyone who laid hands on me in anger, but would consider if there were extenuating circumstances, and the nature of the relationship previously. However, if we'd had a short history or there was a history of arguing or issues, then I'd just break up and be done with the drama.

[Mikala43]

Well aside from you laying your hands on him in anger, which is bad enough.

Add the humiliation that you did in public.

Then add the humiliation that it caused him to fall in the pool.

If this were a ONE time thing in an otherwise great relationship, I DO think I would let it go.

If the relationship wasn't great, this might have been the final straw.

[xxbabeechick]

How do you "accidentally throw" someone into a pool?

You shoved him, plain and simple. An accident means you have no culpability in the matter. Did someone else possess your arms to reach out and push him?

Maybe your first step in getting him to forgive you is accepting responsibility for your actions.