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I have been dating a girl for about 3-4 weeks. We are in our late 20's/early 30's.
On the first date we made out. On the second date she made a big speech about how she has a two month waiting period, and "oxytocin" and not wanting to get too physical too fast. I thought I had been friendzoned, but decided to continue seeing her due to a lack of any better current prospects. On the third date, we made out, and ended up in the bedroom (which she consented to). I "went down" on her as a special treat (which she enjoyed, later describing as "awesome", and orgasmed several times), but subsequently she refused actual intercourse. We ended up sleeping together (but no sex).
On the fourth date, again she ended up sleeping over. I was tired and was just planning on crashing. But when I went to bed, she was extremely frisky/sexual (at least in my perception). Again, I got all of her clothes off including her underwear, but then she refused classic intercourse. I don't know why she let me take all of her clothes off, maybe she expected oral again, but I'm not inclined to oblige every time. Again, she gave a talk about not moving physically too fast. She then slept completely naked with her legs wrapped around mine.
So I'm very confused now about the relationship. I did a search for this on google, and apparently sleepovers with cuddling without sex means "friendzone". Also, from other forums, any girl telling you about waiting periods and all that for sex just isn't that much into you, because she'd probably be giving it to another man that she was more attracted to. I guess I'm also confused about what "sex" is. I've already penetrated her with my tongue and fingers. Seems like we've already moved pretty fast, just haven't done the last bit of it.
Should these sleepovers continue? Given the "waiting period" that's been imposed, is this girl just stringing me along until she finds a man she's more into?
Keep going out with her but don't do the heavy making out/getting naked stuff any more. If she asks why tell her that it teases you and that you'd rather wait until you're both ready to go further for that. She probably just likes making out a lot.
I have been dating a girl for about 3-4 weeks. We are in our late 20's/early 30's.
On the first date we made out. On the second date she made a big speech about how she has a two month waiting period, and "oxytocin" and not wanting to get too physical too fast. I thought I had been friendzoned, but decided to continue seeing her due to a lack of any better current prospects. On the third date, we made out, and ended up in the bedroom (which she consented to). I "went down" on her as a special treat (which she enjoyed, later describing as "awesome", and orgasmed several times), but subsequently she refused actual intercourse. We ended up sleeping together (but no sex).
On the fourth date, again she ended up sleeping over. I was tired and was just planning on crashing. But when I went to bed, she was extremely frisky/sexual (at least in my perception). Again, I got all of her clothes off including her underwear, but then she refused classic intercourse. I don't know why she let me take all of her clothes off, maybe she expected oral again, but I'm not inclined to oblige every time. Again, she gave a talk about not moving physically too fast. She then slept completely naked with her legs wrapped around mine.
So I'm very confused now about the relationship. I did a search for this on google, and apparently sleepovers with cuddling without sex means "friendzone". Also, from other forums, any girl telling you about waiting periods and all that for sex just isn't that much into you, because she'd probably be giving it to another man that she was more attracted to. I guess I'm also confused about what "sex" is. I've already penetrated her with my tongue and fingers. Seems like we've already moved pretty fast, just haven't done the last bit of it.
Should these sleepovers continue? Given the "waiting period" that's been imposed, is this girl just stringing me along until she finds a man she's more into?
If she really wanted to wait she would not have made out the first date, especially since you have only dated 3 - 4 weeks.
Lol I could be wrong but I don't a chick would let you go down on her if she was really trying to friend zone you. Also just because she wants to wait doesn't mean she's trying to friend zone you. I mean do you really like this girl or are you trying to just get in her pants? If you really like her just keep dating her and see what happens.
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I thought I had been friendzoned, but decided to continue seeing her due to a lack of any better current prospects. On the third date, we made out, and ended up in the bedroom (which she consented to). I "went down" on her as a special treat (which she enjoyed, later describing as "awesome", and orgasmed several times), but subsequently she refused actual intercourse. We ended up sleeping together (but no sex).
She then slept completely naked with her legs wrapped around mine.
