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Sounds like we are getting to quite the list of questions that are 'inappropriate' to ask someone you are hitting on, or dating, or in LTR with.
So far I see the following:
1. Can't ask someone their age, because if physical attraction is there, then age shouldn't be important.
2. Can't ask height, because people misrepresent this all the time, especially in online dating.
3. Can't ask weight, everybody either lies, or doesn't answer the question.
4. Sexual history. There was a long thread yesterday that was closed, I am not intending to extend that thread, but it is obvious that for the sake of moving on, everyones sexual history is not appropriate for discussion.
5. Amount of money someone makes.
6. Career. It sounds like a lot of people lie to each other about what they do for a living, just to impress someone. Careers such as fighter pilots, Dr's, and other high paying, dangerous jobs are lied about.
7. Automobile someone drives: Do many people lie about this? Maybe only if someone is attempting a ONS, and they know the other person will never really know.
So, as someone who is looking to meet someone of the opposite sex, what CAN we talk about that isn't off limits ?
Definately not 8. politics or 9. religion, right ? 10. Weather is to mundane.
we can't talk about ourselves apparently, because that is too 'personal'.
Should I learn card tricks and magic tricks like Barney in How I Met Your Mother? (Guy is hilarious)
Should I discuss my excitement for the next COD Black Ops 2 release ?
Reading this forum for any amount of time has me realizing that communication is key for relationships, but there isn't much we can talk about in the first few getting to know you conversations.
You can ask me about my age, my height, my weight, my sexual history, my career and my car (love my car!), religion , or politics (I love a good debate and engaging with people with different opinions then mine).
The amount I make is not anyone's business but my own. Everything else is up for grabs. I have no filter, I like being disturbingly honest and PC=BORING!!
Well, when you approach dating like a job or chore you have to do, you take all the fun out of it.
Are you suggesting that my thread is implying dating is no fun because I approach it like a job or chore ?
My thread is more a conversation about how many things we actually can't talk about when you are interested in someone, and trying to get to know them.
Well.... on my boyfriends and my first date, which was also the first time we met, he got me in full effect. We went to a Smithsonian museum in DC and I was looking at some of the different things, and I was half goofing around but I was still for real in re to Evolution vs. Creation.
This lady skoffed at me and I looked at him and asked him if she was for real because blah blah blah. Well, he found out I was a handful that day as well as that we, for many parts, had pretty different beliefs.....
Ah well... we kept each other.... isn't that what counts?
I was open in who I was and in the questions I had about him. If we can't be honest with one another and are looking for a mate, what are we expecting? Half truths for the rest of our lifes? Not me.
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Sounds like we are getting to quite the list of questions that are 'inappropriate' to ask someone you are hitting on, or dating, or in LTR with.
So far I see the following:
1. Can't ask someone their age, because if physical attraction is there, then age shouldn't be important.
2. Can't ask height, because people misrepresent this all the time, especially in online dating.
3. Can't ask weight, everybody either lies, or doesn't answer the question.
4. Sexual history. There was a long thread yesterday that was closed, I am not intending to extend that thread, but it is obvious that for the sake of moving on, everyones sexual history is not appropriate for discussion.
5. Amount of money someone makes.
6. Career. It sounds like a lot of people lie to each other about what they do for a living, just to impress someone. Careers such as fighter pilots, Dr's, and other high paying, dangerous jobs are lied about.
7. Automobile someone drives: Do many people lie about this? Maybe only if someone is attempting a ONS, and they know the other person will never really know.
So, as someone who is looking to meet someone of the opposite sex, what CAN we talk about that isn't off limits ?
Definately not 8. politics or 9. religion, right ? 10. Weather is to mundane.
we can't talk about ourselves apparently, because that is too 'personal'.
Should I learn card tricks and magic tricks like Barney in How I Met Your Mother? (Guy is hilarious)
Should I discuss my excitement for the next COD Black Ops 2 release ?
Reading this forum for any amount of time has me realizing that communication is key for relationships, but there isn't much we can talk about in the first few getting to know you conversations.
No wonder dating is such a PITA.
Aw crap! That is stuff I actually want to know about someone who I'm going to invest a huge part of my life in. I may as well retire from serious dating and just get prostituites.
Are you suggesting that my thread is implying dating is no fun because I approach it like a job or chore ?
My thread is more a conversation about how many things we actually can't talk about when you are interested in someone, and trying to get to know them.
For some of us, the glass is always half full
For others, the glass will always be half empty
I suggest you choose the positive rather than the negative - it will get you further in life!
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And you said it much more succinctly than I did 
