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Old 09-22-2012, 08:24 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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I wasn't sure where would be best to post this so if the mods feel it would be better suited elsewhere by all means move it.

My question is...would you have an issue with your spouse chatting in the street occassionally with a single neighbor of the opposite sex?

By occassionally I am talking maybe 4 times a year standing 8-9 feet apart just being neighborly basically.

Also if this would indeed be a problem for you would it come down to you not trusting your spouse or not trusting the neighbor?

In this case (if it matters) you, your spouse, and the neighbor are all average looking people so its not a case of feeling threatened by someone who is insanely attractive.
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Old 09-22-2012, 08:30 PM
 
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Wouldn't be a problem for me.

He can talk to whomever he wishes.
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Old 09-22-2012, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Planet Earth, USA
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4 times a year? Person is too insecure. What are you supposed to do? Ignore the neighbors because your SO will be jealous?

If they were going to bone, they will do it anyway. How can you stop it?
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Old 09-22-2012, 08:47 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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My husband and I talk to our neighbors all the time - by ourselves, with each other, - much more than 4 times a year and much closer than 8-9 feet apart. Actually - I love that we are close with our neighbors. We trust each other so why would it ever be an issue?
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Old 09-22-2012, 08:49 PM
 
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The person who has a problem with their spouse chatting with a neighbor 4 times a year on a public street is a Class A lunatic. I would advise their partner to seek out marriage counseling, because that is really messed up. Unless there is much more to this story, it truly is not the sign of a healthy mind.
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Old 09-22-2012, 09:18 PM
 
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The person who keeps count of their spouse chatting with a neighbor 4 times a year on a public street is a Class A lunatic. I would advise their partner to seek out marriage counseling, because that is really messed up. Unless there is much more to this story, it truly is not the sign of a healthy mind.
I changed the wording a little, hope you don't mind.
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Old 09-22-2012, 09:34 PM
 
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I changed the wording a little, hope you don't mind.
Ooh. Good call.
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Old 09-22-2012, 09:36 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Well, my husband and I keep a bulletin board up and we keep track of who we talk to and how often on it. We also keep track of how many phone calls and texts we make to members of the opposite sex or gay friends of the same sex. And when we go out - we keep track of how many members of the opposite sex we look at.

That's not crazy - is it?

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Old 09-22-2012, 09:39 PM
 
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My husband talks to who he wants when he wants, he is a grown man and does not have to ask my permission to do anything except we do discuss any purchase that cost more than $100.00.
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Old 09-22-2012, 09:45 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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Honestly, there is nothing more. For the most part people in my neighborhood seem to be all really friendly and look out for one another. This guy is a GREAT neighbor to EVERYONE...always offering a hand to anyone who may need it. He's just a really helpful person, I have actually never needed help with anything but he has offered. The few times we have spoken he mainly talks about his kids accomplishments...he's really proud of his family.

I just can't figure it out :-\

Truthfully, I've never encountered this before...I realise this woman doesn't know me but all my friends trust me, two have husbands who frequently fly out here on business and I often go out to dinner with them if I am free. Its absolutely a non-issue.
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