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Old 10-06-2012, 09:37 AM
 
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I'd say "where did you go to school and what degree did you get?" and "where do you work?" are definite red flags.
That's long versions of "how much do you make". I can stand that from people I just met.
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Old 10-06-2012, 10:07 AM
 
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These are dealbreakers for me:

1. Someone with bad breath/hygiene
2. Smoker
3. Gets drunk on our date
4. Gets pushy about sex
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Old 10-06-2012, 11:32 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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If she won't have sex with me...but that was a long time ago. I married my last one-nighter almost 15 years ago.
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Old 10-06-2012, 11:50 AM
 
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Well I've just recently added some NEW ones to the tip-TOP of my list:

1) Talking about your crazy ex or about girls in your past who were barely able to contain themselves from wanting to jump your bones! (Broke up with my most recent EX this past Thurs partly because of this. He had some other great qualities which were the only things that made me want to see us into a 2nd date but these same stories and MORE like them kept popping up and after 5 mths I said gotta go!!! Sadly I think he honestly saw nothing wrong with this.)

2) Admitting that you hang out with your exes all the time. (This ties back into #1. My exes don't come back from the dead or hang around stinking up the place for my new guy. It's not about hate, the past is in the past.)

3)Making no effort to look nice. Seriously?
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Old 10-06-2012, 11:56 AM
 
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General lack of intelligence and depth, oftentimes accompanied by b itchiness, as a counterbalancing defense mechanism and/or innate sense of entitlement.

Last edited by robertpolyglot; 10-06-2012 at 12:09 PM..
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Old 10-06-2012, 12:08 PM
 
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1. Hearing stories about how much you hate your parents/siblings/little green aliens. Check please!

2. Braggarts.

3. I have had bad experiences with people who proclaim how nice or good they are. I believe that is code for: I am a scuzzbucket and trying to convince you and myself that I am so not. Hear me roar!

IMO, nice people don't brag about how nice they are. Check please!

4. The person is racist, homophobic, etc.

5. Asks me if I have male friends.

6. Turns on the sex talk.

7. He does not have a sense of humor.
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Old 10-06-2012, 12:38 PM
 
Location: GA
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Dealbreakers:
-cheap
-lack class
-NO conversation. They're so cool all you do it sit, eat, and say nothing while seated at the table.
-people who believe they are intellectually superior so every conversation is a play on words, filled with innuendos and inferences. So the entire night instead of relaxing and having a great time you are engaged in this gross intellectual game and you just want to advise this dude you are just as intelligent as he is so cut it out!
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Old 10-06-2012, 01:25 PM
 
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when she makes a huge tab at dinner. Unless I take her to an expensive restaurant(on a first date-never), most places I take first dates, you'll struggle to make $30, but by God if I didn't meet a woman who went out of her way to find and order the most expensive items on a menu once. She wanted a 2nd date, I asked her about the $60 tab she managed to make, and the 2nd date never happened.

Smoker, probably my biggest deal breaker over all. It's a nasty, disgusting habit that kills you and anyone else inhaling the 2nd hand smoke. What's worse, is I cough uncontrollably when I'm around it, and I have to remove myelf from that area immediately.

a lack of humor. Can't make jokes or laugh at mine? Get out!
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Old 10-06-2012, 01:55 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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when she makes a huge tab at dinner. Unless I take her to an expensive restaurant(on a first date-never), most places I take first dates, you'll struggle to make $30, but by God if I didn't meet a woman who went out of her way to find and order the most expensive items on a menu once. She wanted a 2nd date, I asked her about the $60 tab she managed to make, and the 2nd date never happened.

If you were out with a woman and she happened to drink a bottle's worth of wine, appetizers, steak for an entree and dessert on a first date, why would you bother confronting her or discussing plans for a second date?
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Old 10-06-2012, 02:06 PM
 
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I wouldn't call them first date deal breakers, rather first hang out turn offs. Initially, a person who does not know how to handle himself socially. There's a time and a place and oddly enough it's not a natural understanding for everyone. If I sense a general lack of kindness and mindfulness, which I suppose can be exhibited via the opposite (self-centered, etc), I'll back off. I never really went on dates with people I didn't know.
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