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Old 10-15-2012, 06:22 AM
 
Location: Knightsbridge
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Hopefully they can both move on from this mess. I would hate to see her beating herself over this for a long time.
That's not really his concern. If she cheated and he decided that was enough to end the relationship, he should end it.

Very simple.

She is a cheater.

Also very simple.

If she feels guilt over it, that's a good sign. If she needs to see a psychiatrist to get over the guilt, she should. He shouldn't stay with her so that she doesn't beat herself up over it, however. It's not his responsibility to 'fix' her, nor is it yours to try to ensure she never feels pain.

It's life. I feel pain. You feel pain. When it happens, it's bad and tragic. How we deal with it decides who we are, however.
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Old 10-15-2012, 07:19 PM
 
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My friend cheated on her bf and well he caught her, as in really busted her. But the guy is undecided and they're still talking it out. This happened last month.

Anyway I can help my gf get her man back? Thing is he's thinking about it and according to her, he told her if she can help him recover from and believe it's not gonna happen again then he'll give it another try.
If someone got caught cheating and the person is undecided, how can he/she prove to them that they can be trusted again?

Long story short is there is NOTHING she can do. He needs to decide he can trust her again and the harder she pushes the further away he is going to pull.

Truth be told she cheated once, she'll do it again so why bother. If it's in a persons make up to cheat they will continue to do it regardless of the consequences.

Honestly he should just walk away and find someone with their priorities in order.
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Old 10-16-2012, 05:09 AM
 
Location: The Present
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He should stick to his guns and dump her, while you should mind your own business. If youre a dude please quit it with the white knighting.
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Old 10-16-2012, 05:43 PM
 
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He should stick to his guns and dump her, while you should mind your own business. If youre a dude please quit it with the white knighting.
Nope, I'm a woman.

I know very well I should mind my business, which has already been mentioned many times but I'm just trying to help out esp when she directly asked me what to do and how to get him back. That's what friends are there for.
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Old 10-18-2012, 02:44 AM
 
Location: Knightsbridge
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Nope, I'm a woman.

I know very well I should mind my business, which has already been mentioned many times but I'm just trying to help out esp when she directly asked me what to do and how to get him back. That's what friends are there for.
I would suggest jumping in to her way way back machine and telling her past self not to cheat.
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Old 10-21-2012, 09:30 PM
 
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I would suggest jumping in to her way way back machine and telling her past self not to cheat.
Well there is no point to that but he took her back yesterday. Such a good guy I guess.
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Old 10-22-2012, 02:43 AM
 
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Default My friend got caught cheating and she's sad

Oh dear.... Life can be a bugger can't it... consequences eh?

Since he took her back i'll assume she is no longer sad...... yay..
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Old 10-22-2012, 05:38 AM
 
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Well there is no point to that but he took her back yesterday. Such a good guy I guess.

Anyone taking bets as to how long this is gonna last.

She'll get comfortable with him back in her life and go right back to cheating and you'll be on here again in a couple of months asking how she can get him back....
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Old 10-28-2012, 06:02 PM
 
Location: Earth
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I would have more problems with the lying than the actual act.

This is something for THEM to work out and all the little busy-bodies need to watch a soap opera for their drama fix and stay out of other people's relationships IMHO
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Old 10-28-2012, 06:04 PM
 
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My friend cheated on her bf and well he caught her, as in really busted her. But the guy is undecided and they're still talking it out. This happened last month.

Anyway I can help my gf get her man back? Thing is he's thinking about it and according to her, he told her if she can help him recover from and believe it's not gonna happen again then he'll give it another try.
If someone got caught cheating and the person is undecided, how can he/she prove to them that they can be trusted again?
You shouldn't help her get him back because the only thing she deserves is to be kicked down the stairs.
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