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What do I care if my man looks? I look, too. It's human nature to look at something aethtically pleasing. Just because you own a painting doesn't mean you can no longer go to the museum.
Do people also get upset if your man's eyes linger too long on a pretty woman on TV?
One of my favorite relationship bloggers, Matthew Hussey wrote the following, on his blog-site, about this very topic:
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Lust is an animal instinct. It’s like when a guy sees a gorgeous, knockout woman walk past him in the street. No matter how totally happy, secure and fulfilled that guy is in his current relationship, it doesn’t stop him from turning his head.
That’s why you should never make a big deal about a guy noticing other women. If he’s flirting, then that’s different. But never hold him to ransom for what goes on in his head.
When a guy is happy and confident that what he has with his partner is special and unique i.e. he is with a woman who represents a complete package, him noticing other women’s looks doesn’t matter. Even if in that moment he has sexual thoughts about her, he knows that these looks don’t compare to his one-in-a-million relationship.
As long as men have minds they are going to use them to fantasize. And getting jealous about his thoughts is only going to drive you crazy. This isn’t about playing dumb and ignorant, it’s about understanding men so that we don’t blow small things out of proportion. - Gettheguy.co.uk
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Why does the above quote hint at that only men notice someone of the opposite sex who is good looking...and that it's just something "normal" for them. It's no big deal for them to eye a woman or have sexual thoughts about a woman because "they are a man." And their partner shouldn't think twice about it because he's with her. Whatever. It'd be different if the shoe were on the other foot.
I'm in a serious, longterm relationship and honestly, I've never caught my guy checking out another female...When I do see him staring, however, it's usually at some part of me .
What do I care if my man looks? I look, too. It's human nature to look at something aethtically pleasing. Just because you own a painting doesn't mean you can no longer go to the museum.
Do people also get upset if your man's eyes linger too long on a pretty woman on TV?
That makes no sense. People watch TV. How can a man's eyes "linger too long" on TV?
As for the rest, it's not a matter of getting upset. It's a matter of good manners. Neither my SO nor I are so rude as to check out other people when we are with each other. Indeed, I don't think it even occurs to either of us to do so. We are just naturally not inclined to that kind of behavior and are more in the moment and focused on each other instead.
Regardless, we both happen to feel that when partners are together, that is not the time and place for checking people out. He recently went to the beach for a work-related event. I assume he noticed girls in bikinis, and I couldn't care less about that. I see well-built shirtless guys running right in my own complex, and my SO couldn't care less about that, either. Time and place matter.
Was going to start a thread on this, but glad I did a search first.
My longtime BF has been very loyal to me as far as I know. I've noticed him looking at women before, but not exactly staring/oogling. I guess it's harmless. Do I like it? No, but oh well, what can I do.
but any man with a modest amount of intelligence and/or consideration will curb the habit when his GF is around
This is true but some of us just get very good at doing it subtly. My little tactic is point out something else in the general vicinity so I have a reason to look in that direction anyway.
Does your mate have what's commonly referred to as, "the roving eye syndrome?" I haven't really noticed it when I'm out w/ my guy, but a friend told me that she was a bit perturbed that her boyfriend occasionally turns his head quickly, if a very attractive woman walks by their table, while out on a date.
I don't really see the big deal if someone just quickly glances, especially if the other person is extremely attractive. However, I would be concerned, if my date/bf consistently looked at almost every woman who passed by, for an extended period of time.
One of my favorite relationship bloggers, Matthew Hussey wrote the following, on his blog-site, about this very topic:
Do you agree with the above stance?
It depends how attracted I am to the girl I'm dating. I didn't find my last gf very hot so I was constantly checking out other girls. The one I'm dating now, I see her as about a 9 so I honestly don't even bat an eye at other girls.
I generally don't look out of respect, but occasionally it can't be helped...as in "yoga pants bending over in the cereal aisle exposing the fact you have no underwear on" ....probably not a good idea in public.
I wonder how men feel when their SO looks at other guys, or exclaims about how good-looking some guy on TV is.
Guys, is that kosher, or is that rude or inconsiderate? My mom and dad each used to comment on attractive members of the opposite sex on TV, and neither minded the other doing that.
I wonder how men feel when their SO looks at other guys, or exclaims about how good-looking some guy on TV is.
Guys, is that kosher, or is that rude or inconsiderate?
Women do this all the time.
How many damn times does a guy have to hear about Twilight or Gerard Butler?
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