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Old 10-11-2012, 10:47 AM
 
Location: Bethesda, MD
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Does your mate have what's commonly referred to as, "the roving eye syndrome?" I haven't really noticed it when I'm out w/ my guy, but a friend told me that she was a bit perturbed that her boyfriend occasionally turns his head quickly, if a very attractive woman walks by their table, while out on a date.

I don't really see the big deal if someone just quickly glances, especially if the other person is extremely attractive. However, I would be concerned, if my date/bf consistently looked at almost every woman who passed by, for an extended period of time.

One of my favorite relationship bloggers, Matthew Hussey wrote the following, on his blog-site, about this very topic:

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Lust is an animal instinct. It’s like when a guy sees a gorgeous, knockout woman walk past him in the street. No matter how totally happy, secure and fulfilled that guy is in his current relationship, it doesn’t stop him from turning his head.

That’s why you should never make a big deal about a guy noticing other women. If he’s flirting, then that’s different. But never hold him to ransom for what goes on in his head.

When a guy is happy and confident that what he has with his partner is special and unique i.e. he is with a woman who represents a complete package, him noticing other women’s looks doesn’t matter. Even if in that moment he has sexual thoughts about her, he knows that these looks don’t compare to his one-in-a-million relationship.

As long as men have minds they are going to use them to fantasize. And getting jealous about his thoughts is only going to drive you crazy. This isn’t about playing dumb and ignorant, it’s about understanding men so that we don’t blow small things out of proportion. - Gettheguy.co.uk
Do you agree with the above stance?
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:51 AM
 
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Does your mate have what's commonly referred to as, "the roving eye syndrome?" I haven't really noticed it when I'm out w/ my guy, but a friend told me that she was a bit perturbed that her boyfriend occasionally turns his head quickly, if a very attractive woman walks by their table, while out on a date.

I don't really see the big deal if someone just quickly glances, especially if the other person is extremely attractive. However, I would be concerned, if my date/bf consistently looked at almost every woman who passed by, for an extended period of time. One of my favorite relationship bloggers, Matthew Hussey wrote the following, on his blog-site:



Do you agree with the above stance?

My husband wouldn't notice an attractive woman in the same establishment as him unless she stuck the twins in his face and said "Look at me". He is oblivious to women around him and I am the one to point out someone to him, it's actually quite funny to me.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:59 AM
 
Location: Bethesda, MD
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My husband wouldn't notice an attractive woman in the same establishment as him unless she stuck the twins in his face and said "Look at me". He is oblivious to women around him and I am the one to point out someone to him, it's actually quite funny to me.
I haven't noticed my guy looking at other women who are attractive, but when we go out this evening, I'm going to pay special attention.
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Old 10-11-2012, 11:05 AM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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My husband is also oblivious to other women or men or children or anyone else. He doesn't visually take in his surroundings unless it's scenery or animals. He'll always notice a dog on a leash but a girl in a bikini could walk by and it' not on his radar screen. He has always been like this.
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Old 10-11-2012, 11:08 AM
 
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My husband is also oblivious to other women or men or children or anyone else. He doesn't visually take in his surroundings unless it's scenery or animals. He'll always notice a dog on a leash but a girl in a bikini could walk by and it' not on his radar screen. He has always been like this.

Mine will notice vehicles, sunsets, parks, dogs, and an occassional young one but the young one has to actually walk up to our table and stand in front of him and giggle before he pays attention. Even if he did notice other women in public I don't care and it does not bother me one bit. I know who he is married to and comes home to without hesitation or doubt and it helps that I absolutely trust him.
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Old 10-11-2012, 11:13 AM
 
Location: NYC
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almost all men do this

but any man with a modest amount of intelligence and/or consideration will curb the habit when his GF is around
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Old 10-11-2012, 03:55 PM
 
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No my guy doesn't have a quick roving eye as I see no reason or benefit in having a guy other than for my amusement and entertainment.

I agree and disagree with the above stance.

I agree that women shouldn't concern themselves with their partner's sexual thoughts as it's extremely doubtful that you're the main star of his attraction.

I disagree that men know looks don't compare to his relationship considering the amount of male infidelity, harsh judging of women's looks, and bemoaning of women letting themselves.

In my opinion I see little reasoning in the concern of a date/bf consistently looking at almost every woman who passed by for an extended period of time. Likely your date/bf uses porn and looks at women for an extended period of time while getting off, has sexual thoughts and fantasies about other women constantly, and thinks about other women like your sister/best friend/daughter's friends while f*cking you. Concern is suited for when he has an opportunity as I think men are only as faithful as their options.
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Old 10-11-2012, 04:12 PM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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Every guy has this, unless they are genuinely asexual. I daresay women have it too. It's just a question of how discrete one can be. Women have an uncanny ability to spy potential mates out through solid objects and through the backs of their heads, whereas men gawk like idiots.
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Old 10-11-2012, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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A discreet glance with the eyeballs is one thing, snapping your head around like it's on a swivel is another. It shoudn't be too much to expect that your S.O. show some self control while out with you. This goes for men as well as women.
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Old 10-11-2012, 04:40 PM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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I think the blog is completely accurate for the vast majority of men. The rest may be visually impaired!
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