Bad sex or no sex? (men, lover, attracted, emotionally)
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I've actually mostly dated guys who were fine with "slow." Heck, the ex-biker I lived with was totally against even kissing on the first date. The one guy I dated who fully expected to sleep with me on the first date (I set him straight on that pretty quick) turned out to be the most insecure of the guys I've been with. Which was why things never really progressed beyond FWB with him.
Is he religious? Maybe we're just of the younger generation (under 30), but all the guys I had wanted to go ASAP like Philo. Don't worry, you're not alone.
Sure I do! If a woman's hand guides mine to her lady parts as we are kissing and she starts fumbling with my belt, you can bet I won't be pushing her away and running for the door.
Sure I do! If a woman's hand guides mine to her lady parts as we are kissing and she starts fumbling with my belt, you can bet I won't be pushing her away and running for the door.
I haven't had a woman just lay there as a dead fish either. As long as she's into it and she's gettin' off and I'm getting off I don't think there can be bad sex.
FWIW, I don't expect sex on a first date period. But if there is some intense chemistry there and things start getting hot, I'm not going to ask if we're "Moving too fast". I'm just going to go with it. If we end up f*cking, great! If we end up just fooling around, great! I'm not going to be the guy putting the brakes on the action because I think it'll somehow affect our future together. I don't have any rules regarding the level of physical intimacy is appropriate on the first date. If she doesn't want to go beyond messing around on the first date, that's fine too. I'm not going force a girl into doing anything she isn't comfortable doing. Just don't expect me to put the brakes on the action when things are getting hot.
Sure I do! If a woman's hand guides mine to her lady parts as we are kissing and she starts fumbling with my belt, you can bet I won't be pushing her away and running for the door.
Three flavors here:
a) you can continue if you like her and want to see her again,
b) you can continue if it's sort of understood that it's FWB, and
c) you should not continue if she is into you, but you are not into her, beyond an event or two like you've just described
No sex. Bad sex is a waste of time and energy. I'd rather spend my time doing something productive if that is the case.
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