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But the point is you don't seem to show much concern over why this lifestyle change has occured. If a person who's never had a weight problem puts on a bunch of weight for no reason, it's unlikely that it's just because of laziness. And it's not something that she's doing to you, she's doing it to herself. Shaming her by telling her that it's unacceptable to you isn't helping her get to the bottom of what's going on.
If you feel like braking up just do it. You do not need anyones approval.
And i hope your partner never takes you back. Just let your partner be if you dont love her/him anymore.
lol... thanks for that. You seem to have trouble reading. My wife is the same weight she was in her early 20s. I don't think I'll be divorcing her anytime soon over weight.
But the point is you don't seem to show much concern over why this lifestyle change has occured. If a person who's never had a weight problem puts on a bunch of weight for no reason, it's unlikely that it's just because of laziness. And it's not something that she's doing to you, she's doing it to herself. Shaming her by telling her that it's unacceptable to you isn't helping her get to the bottom of what's going on.
Weight gain like this is gradual. I would be butting in at 10 lbs, not waiting for it to go beyond that.
Just because a woman has cellulite does not mean she is lazy it means she has cellulite. A lot of women get it or have even when very fit and thin. As far as rolls on the tummy that can come from many different things and the main reason is being pregnant and birthing a child. Just a hint for you as well, don't be surprised when you wake up one day with a tummy yourself, all that working out does not last forever and you can and probably will get that tummy as you age. So, don't be surprised when your woman just can't stand all that "unsightliness" and finds a guy who is 20 when you are 40 and trades you in for a new shiny pretty model.
Men age like wine. We don't have to worry about make-up not hiding our faces anymore, or sagging nasty breasts that look lifeless. And, working out does last forever (uncles are near 60 and still lean)...at least longer than perky breasts. Let's face it, once that chest drops, women have no power.
Men age like wine. We don't have to worry about make-up not hiding our faces anymore, or sagging nasty breasts that look lifeless. And, working out does last forever (uncles are near 60 and still lean)...at least longer than perky breasts. Let's face it, once that chest drops, women have no power.
Working out pretty much does last forever for men... and it goes a long way for women too.
People change as they age and a lot of people gain some weight as they get older especially after a woman has a few kids, but I would be pretty unhappy if I was married and my husband gained a lot of weight. Looks are important and if he gained 100 pounds I probably wouldn't be attracted to him anymore. I think if you love your partner then it's important to try to maintain your appearance within reason. It's one thing to marry someone who is already overweight and quite another to marry a thin person who turns into an obese person. Not to mention the health concerns I would have for him.
Men age like wine. We don't have to worry about make-up not hiding our faces anymore, or sagging nasty breasts that look lifeless. And, working out does last forever (uncles are near 60 and still lean)...at least longer than perky breasts. Let's face it, once that chest drops, women have no power.
Wow. Priceless post. Women are now reduced to the perkiness of their breasts. Maybe we should just be exterminated when we hit 35 as we are just subhuman after that.
People change as they age and a lot of people gain some weight as they get older especially after a woman has a few kids, but I would be pretty unhappy if I was married and my husband gained a lot of weight. Looks are important and if he gained 100 pounds I probably wouldn't be attracted to him anymore. I think if you love your partner then it's important to try to maintain your appearance within reason. It's one thing to marry someone who is already overweight and quite another to marry a thin person who turns into an obese person. Not to mention the health concerns I would have for him.
I completely agree with your first point, strawberry. My wife is in her mid 30s, not early 20s. Of course she looks different, and I'd be a jerk if I expected her to be a perfect size two for life. If she is 30 lbs heavier when she's 65, I won't be surprised. That's reasonable weight gain. 100 pounds is not reasonable weight gain. That's an addiction .. and it's wrong to be an addict and to just expect your partner to deal.
If that's important to you, yes. People split up for lessor reasons. Staying together in a poor relationship is a cancer that can suck the life out of you. You see it here all the time. He or she is abusive from almost day one and they stay together as if the relationship is worth hanging onto
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