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It doesn't have **** to do with money. I want the right to raise my children. That's it.
That's very admirable, most of the men I know that have gone through divorce would rather just write a check and ignore their children. Most consider themselves 'childless' when it comes to dating as well.
If you work it out with your wife before hand, I wouldn't think joint custody (50/50) would be a problem.
Here's the thing. I don't subscribe to the opinion that a mother should automatically get the kids and that the father should be removed from the home and be nothing but a visitor. That's why they call it "visitation," because the father "visits" his own children twice a month on weekends. Well, **** that ****!!!!!!!! I have been a very, very attentive and involved father, and I don't deserve having that taken away, and neither do the kids.
I don't know what kind of men or fathers you have known, but that is not me. Got it?
It doesn't have **** to do with money. I want the right to raise my children. That's it.
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Originally Posted by Doll Eyes
I have known and so have many other women that MOST men do not actively take care of their kids, that's why there's so many single mothers in the first place. They can spin it any direction they want, proof is in the pudding. If that's not you, so be it.
JJ already suggested 50/50 custody and that's your answer, but I'm sure you'll have a reason why that's not good enough either....I seen the 50/50 split and guess what? The kid ends up back with the mom full time anyways.
I'm not going to go into my views on the top line.
Interestingly, I've noticed the same thing as well. Women, in general, are used to having the kids full time and they do the bulk of the work a lot of the time. Again, this is not 100% true in every case, it's just what I've seen as a majority.
So, when the father does end up with 50/50 custody a lot of the time he gives up because it's far more work than he thought it would be and the Mother ends up with most of the custody anyway. It's an interesting thing to see. It recently (well, over the last few months) happened to a friend of mine. He demanded custody, got his 50/50 and within 3 months gave up and she had primary custody. I guess he didn't realize how hard it was to take care of an infant.
I think aging and illness plays a part as well. "In sickness and in health" is a tall order.
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