When did so many men become so hostile about being expected to pay for dates??? (marriage, younger)
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btw i am not a man i choose the screen based on a actor i love and he sxey and rich unlike your broke a$$
ladies if your tired of dealing with broke american men date an african or an arab these men are very traditional and masculine they dont have the same whiny effeminate traits as white american males
Career woman these days have more money than the average male..who ever is richer- should pay...silly to have a guy give up his last 100 bucks to impress the woman when she has 10,000 bucks of disposable cash. There is nothing wrong with the woman paying..in the alternative...if the male has money...let them pay....Money has become a huge thing these days between couples...Look at the on line dating sites...Total turn off...when they post how much money they make and what they expect..who needs that kind of love?
I expect to share the bill. For me that seems to be the most sensible, especially if the girl is somewhat liberal and believe in equal treatment of men and women. The only persuasive argument for me paying is if a girl tells me she believe in classical gender roles. If not, it shows that you want to keep tradition that are advantageous to women, but remove the ones who aren't.
If a girl makes a big scene when I tell her we should split the bill, then I will pay to avoid any drama, drive her home, and never contact her again.
For you guys that state that you dont think you should pay for your dates food, drink, etc. I still havent heard specifically why it angers you to pick up the check.
Do you feel you are being taken advantage of?
Is it because women now have equal legal and civil rights?
Is it because women now make as much money as you?
Just what angers you. What is your goal when you decide you want to "go out" with a woman. Do you just want to hang out and have fun. Because you can do that with friends. Are you just trying to get laid. Because you dont have to "date" to do that. Or do you hope to develop a romantic relationship, fall in love, perhaps marry and have a family?
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For you guys that state that you dont think you should pay for your dates food, drink, etc. I still havent heard specifically why it angers you to pick up the check.
Do you feel you are being taken advantage of?
Is it because women now have equal legal and civil rights?
Is it because women now make as much money as you?
Just what angers you. What is your goal when you decide you want to "go out" with a woman. Do you just want to hang out and have fun. Because you can do that with friends. Are you just trying to get laid. Because you dont have to "date" to do that. Or do you hope to develop a romantic relationship, fall in love, perhaps marry and have a family?
Because it is an outdated notion. I may be very well throwing money away for nothing, money that could be better spent elsewhere. Who knows if the date leads to anything substantial?
Because it is an outdated notion. I may be very well throwing money away for nothing, money that could be better spent elsewhere. Who knows if the date leads to anything substantial?
That's what I advocate for on the first 3 dates or things that are low cost (no more than $15 total). This allows for one to see if chemistry is there without draining your bank account.
That's what I advocate for on the first 3 dates or things that are low cost (no more than $15 total). This allows for one to see if chemistry is there without draining your bank account.
This is perfectly reasonable. I don't understand why "paying" I'd equated with spending huge dollars. It is more equated with taking care of the details. It is like if you ask you need to plan the outing. You can't just show up and say what should we do.
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That's what I advocate for on the first 3 dates or things that are low cost (no more than $15 total). This allows for one to see if chemistry is there without draining your bank account.
Then the problem becomes will a woman go for that or will I come off like a cheap b^&@@*d?
(See my thread I started today) I guess we shall see.
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