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Some things I've learned:
Don't "ask" her out. Tell her you want to see her again and make plans. If she wants to go, she'll go or give you another time/place. Do this over the phone, not text, to avoid a simple "I can't make it" text and that's it. And don't accept maybes. Maybe means you're just an option, or plan B.
I think you're overthinking this. You guys had a blast on your date - that's awesome! She said yes to seeing you again, so make another date! Not everyone enjoys texting and FB'ing. And I think 50-100 texts is a LOT. I doubt I send anyone that many texts in one day. I think if you are sending a few a day that's more than enough. I would probably be annoyed with a guy if he wanted to text me all day regardless if we had had one date or twenty. The last thing you want to appear is desperate and women get scared off just like guys do if you come on too strong.
When we've been together in our club, she doesn't seem to get texts much at all. In fact, she never pulled her phone out on that one-on-one date we had.
I was a little direct with her yesterday asking if she wanted to get together again, and she did say yes. Our schedules have been a bit busy (my grandparents are out visiting this weekend, and she's working overtime).
Guess in response to smarterguy's post, I'm used to texting girls a lot. I'm not talking every second of the day, but with my past relationships and friendships, it seems like it would be normal to send 50-100 per day instead of the 5 or so I do with this girl.
caverunner17, you run into one of those rare females that actually like to interact with people "manually", you know, that old fashioned way where you could actually see, smell, and touch the one you're talking to...I can't even imagine texting 50-100 texts a day to someone, that to me is really really bizarre, wow, I must be really getting old.
I think you're overthinking this. You guys had a blast on your date - that's awesome! She said yes to seeing you again, so make another date! Not everyone enjoys texting and FB'ing. And I think 50-100 texts is a LOT. I doubt I send anyone that many texts in one day. I think if you are sending a few a day that's more than enough. I would probably be annoyed with a guy if he wanted to text me all day regardless if we had had one date or twenty. The last thing you want to appear is desperate and women get scared off just like guys do if you come on too strong.
We went to a halloween party together dressed the same. Thought we had fun.. Anyways, a day or two later, she sort of backs away and doesn't seem to talk much to me when we meet up with our group. Also pretty much goes dead with any texting (a few words for a response, if I get a response).
All I know is women are weird. One day excited and trying to figure out when to meet next... the next week... nothing.
Oh well. Guess it's back to the drawing board to try to meet other girls.
We went to a halloween party together dressed the same. Thought we had fun.. Anyways, a day or two later, she sort of backs away and doesn't seem to talk much to me when we meet up with our group. Also pretty much goes dead with any texting (a few words for a response, if I get a response).
All I know is women are weird. One day excited and trying to figure out when to meet next... the next week... nothing.
Oh well. Guess it's back to the drawing board to try to meet other girls.
Sorry to hear that, but I wouldn't call it weird. Dating is the process of getting to know someone, usually looking for that someone to share your life with. Maybe after these few dates, she's decided she's no longer interested. That doesn't make her weird, it means this isn't going to work out between you and it's time to move on.
I'm a girl in my 20's who doesn't like to text much anymore and I absolutely hate talking on the phone. Maybe she just isn't into conversation outside of face-to-face dates, which is totally understandable if you have a busy schedule. I work and am taking 3 grad classes, so do the math...I'm at work for 8 hrs a day 5 days a week and I cant talk/text. Then Im in class for 3 1/2 hours twice a week-cant talk then either. So its not uncommon to go a couple days without talking to my bf.
People in their 20's have lives that dont revolve around texting, facebook, twitter etc.
I can't believe you would text someone you have gone out with a couple times 50-100 times a day. That's insane. If someone even texted me 10 times a day (without REALLY good reason) I would think they are obsessive and needy. I hate texting conversations and only like texting if it's to say hi, when they can't talk on the phone or are sending me info on where to meet.
We went to a halloween party together dressed the same. Thought we had fun.. Anyways, a day or two later, she sort of backs away and doesn't seem to talk much to me when we meet up with our group. Also pretty much goes dead with any texting (a few words for a response, if I get a response).
All I know is women are weird. One day excited and trying to figure out when to meet next... the next week... nothing.
Oh well. Guess it's back to the drawing board to try to meet other girls.
Maybe next time caverunner17, you can forget you even got a cell?..bet you'd have a better response!
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