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Thankfully I have not, although I feel it will be coming soon, haha. My parents immigrated from Taiwan and have a very traditional view of dating/marriage. They themselves were set up by their parents, and so forth. Not quite an arranged marriage per say, but they were expected to be together. Right now the spotlight is on my older cousin though. He's in his mid 30s and still a bachelor, so my parents, aunts, and grandparents have been corresponding with family friends in Taiwan to hook him up with a "nice Taiwanese girl". The problem: he was born and raised in America, and doesn't speak the language/know the culture. I'm sure once they're done with him it'll be me next, nevermind the fact that I do just fine. I've only ever brought one girlfriend home to my parents, and they hated her. So, anytime they ask now if I'm seeing someone I just say no.
This somewhat wealthy older married couple that i knew had a bunch of daughters (i knew the couple, not the daughters) and somehow the conversation ended up me talking about my 'love life' to the wife. She said that she could 'set me up' with one of the daughters friends. They invited me to this party at their house and all i knew was that the girl was 'cute'. so i was like "ok, im in!"
The girl ended up being somewhat cute but i think she had tattoos or something and she smoked too, i talked to her for like a few minutes but it was obvious right from the start that nothing was going to happen. Kind of disappointing, i did see a tremendous hottie across the room that i inquired about and of course, she was already taken.
I’ve thought about starting a thread on this for a while.
People have been trying to set me up practically my whole life. Just like last week I was ambushed with a blind date. I met a friend and his gf, and they had a friend who just so happen to be there to meet me.
With very few exceptions, all of the girls/women are ones I would never be attracted to physically, intellectually or emotionally. Last week was no exception. And without exception, I am always extremely polite about it…until I get the matchmaker alone and ask them what the hell were they thinking. Not because my ego was hurt, rather because they put two people in an uncomfortable situation.
The problem is with most matchmakers, it’s about satisfying their own need to control things rather than asking the most basic question about setting two people up, which is not “I think these two would be perfect for each other”. It is “would these two people be attracted to each other”.
There should be a law that most people (especially women, especially especially married/taken women) should be banned from setting people up. It’s a shame because meeting people through friends should be the best and easiest way to meet a potential mate, but often it can be the worst.
Geez...all us loosers sayin no, never, and DrVanNostren over here can't beat them off with a stick fast enough.
j/k DVN it was a good post, and quite true.
That's just what came to me when I read your name.
LOL, it's more of a curse most of the time.
Hopefully it didn't come across as self-centered, I didn't mean it that way.
I think the main reason that I get set up is because I'm very friendly. I'm not snobbish or rude to women nor will I ignore someone just based on appearance. In other words, I give off a vibe of some sort that suggests I'm a good match for most people since I get along with most people. Doesn't mean I want to date most people, but that seems to be irrelevant
I think no matter what, it's important to be polite. Who knows, maybe the person I'm being set up with is equally as unattracted to me as I am to her? Either way, no reason to be a jerk.
Hopefully it didn't come across as self-centered, I didn't mean it that way.
I think the main reason that I get set up is because I'm very friendly. I'm not snobbish or rude to women nor will I ignore someone just based on appearance. In other words, I give off a vibe of some sort that suggests I'm a good match for most people since I get along with most people. Doesn't mean I want to date most people, but that seems to be irrelevant
I've helped set someone else up. Not because we cared about his personal life but we just wanted to have some laughs for ourselves. The best part is that they didn't even notice us in the same restaurant as them. It was great. It turned out to be bad for them.
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The problem: he was born and raised in America, and doesn't speak the language/know the culture. I'm sure once they're done with him it'll be me next, nevermind the fact that I do just fine. I've only ever brought one girlfriend home to my parents, and they hated her. So, anytime they ask now if I'm seeing someone I just say no. 
I know you like being match maker. 
