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If you're attractive and have a pleasant personality, I don't understand how going from 1 place to another is going to make a huge difference
It just isn't that simple. She's been working her city for years, and nothing's clicked. To an extent, it's a numbers game, and she's running out of numbers in Denver. The SF Bay Area is a HUGE dating pool, a lot of interesting activities going on, extremely diverse in every way. NYC is the same. I don't know about Chicago, but it seems diverse.
Contrast those liberal areas with the Bible Belt. No contest. End of story. And then there's the gloom of Seattle and Portland. Fuggedaboutit. Geography really can make a difference.
On the other hand, she may not have explored all the possibilities in her town, as previously suggested.
Still most white guys I know nowadays are open to dating a nice black girl who is of similar culture. Most white guys I know are only turned off by black women who act in that stereotypical ghetto culture. OP is clearly intelligent and well spoken so I don't understand why that would be an issue
Yeah, but depending on where you reside, the white guys might never approach you, even if they are open.
In certain places I've lived in, I've found the white guys to be very shy, even if they are attracted to you. In other places, they are more aggressive, forward. It's regional. Also, I found that white guys are a lot bolder online than in real life.
Still most white guys I know nowadays are open to dating a nice black girl who is of similar culture. Most white guys I know are only turned off by black women who act in that stereotypical ghetto culture. OP is clearly intelligent and well spoken so I don't understand why that would be an issue
Yeah, and the OP is really cute, appealing across the board, assuming a liberal population base. She said in her other thread that the White guys she's been with at all end up treating her like dirt. That indicates a conservative mentality. To put it politely.
It just isn't that simple. She's been working her city for years, and nothing's clicked. To an extent, it's a numbers game, and she's running out of numbers in Denver. The SF Bay Area is a HUGE dating pool, a lot of interesting activities going on, extremely diverse in every way. NYC is the same. I don't know about Chicago, but it seems diverse.
Contrast those liberal areas with the Bible Belt. No contest. End of story. And then there's the gloom of Seattle and Portland. Fuggedaboutit. Geography really can make a difference.
On the other hand, she may not have explored all the possibilities in her town, as previously suggested.
Yeah, but depending on where you reside, the white guys might never approach you, even if they are open.
In certain places I've lived in, I've found the white guys to be very shy, even if they are attracted to you. In other places, they are more aggressive, forward. It's regional. Also, I found that white guys are a lot bolder online than in real life.
So why not approach them yourself? It's 2012
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
It just isn't that simple. She's been working her city for years, and nothing's clicked. To an extent, it's a numbers game, and she's running out of numbers in Denver. The SF Bay Area is a HUGE dating pool, a lot of interesting activities going on, extremely diverse in every way. NYC is the same. I don't know about Chicago, but it seems diverse.
Contrast those liberal areas with the Bible Belt. No contest. End of story. And then there's the gloom of Seattle and Portland. Fuggedaboutit. Geography really can make a difference.
On the other hand, she may not have explored all the possibilities in her town, as previously suggested.
I am not saying you're wrong, I just think it's a little escapist to automatically assume going somewhere else will make a huge difference
It's like the guy who works somewhere who always thinks that another company will treat him much better...goes to that other company and receives the same treatment overall. A lot of life is what you make of it
I am not saying you're wrong, I just think it's a little escapist to automatically assume going somewhere else will make a huge difference
Sure. And I think there are venues in her town she can, and should, try, still. And she made a point about leaving her friends, her support group, behind if she were to move, and that she wasn't all that impressed with the Bay Area. Hm. So, she'll be staying put for now, and trying to work some new angles. Also good.
I am not saying you're wrong, I just think it's a little escapist to automatically assume going somewhere else will make a huge difference
It's like the guy who works somewhere who always thinks that another company will treat him much better...goes to that other company and receives the same treatment overall. A lot of life is what you make of it
I don't think so. In fact, I know it's not escapist.
States in the U.S. are different not just culturally, but demographically and if you are in a place where your brand of beauty is considered desirable, you'd have a lot more dating opportunities than one where it is the opposite.
The thing is that the OP needs to do her research, pick a state and then move. Even if it's for a year.
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