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I guess I find it odd that I can understand gays, but have a lack of understanding of bi's...... I wonder as a gay guy, have you ever came across gay guys who were still sorta haven't come out and "use" the bi thing to "cope" with their feelings for men. IDK....
If you don't wanna answer that is fine... I was just sorta thinking out loud....
I have a lesbain friend we talk about stuff... but I've never known a gay guy that I could ask that question to.... I don't wanna offend people so I don't go around polling people.... usually anyways....
I have known a couple gay men who felt more comfortable saying they were bi before they were really okay being gay - but I also know a couple of bi people who truly are bi. I did a show with this one guy - and he was married to a man but I got this sexual vibe from him that I usually don't get from gay men. And then he told me that both he and his husband feel like they are 60% gay, 40% straight. He's one of the few truly bisexual men I have known. My close friend who is transgender is I guess bi - I just consider him a lover - not a fighter!
Don't do it. You become a huge HIV risk. A bisexual BF is a liability.
A man that sleeps with other men is more likely to have HIV. That's true. But you can both take STD test before sex and wait till you are in a monogamous relationship to have sex. Also, there are condoms. HIV is actually not very easy to spread. From what I read, HIV is usually spread from having unprotected sex several times with someone infected. Also, it's not a skin to skin contacted disease (as opposed to HPV and herpes) so condoms are effective. What would be far more risky for catching HIV, would be to have unprotected sex with someone who you don't know is bi, than to have protected tested sex with a bi male who you are in a relationship with.
One of my exes (a guy) lied to me through our whole relationship. It was horrible. My current guy is patient, but it's left me with issues that I'm still dealing with.
That is where I am now minus the understanding boyfriend.
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I understand that whatever happened in her past has profoundly affected her, that's why this bulletin board is no good. Only professional help (or perhaps a bit of time) can heal that. Here, she will just use those who disagree as an excuse to yell louder (thereby re-entrenching her fallacies that she uses for protection from emotional anguish) and likewise find comfort in those who ignorantly agree. The problem is, saying such things can really damage the self esteem of bisexuals who are just figuring out who they are. I don't want some bi kid reading her crap and thinking "oh...she's right I guess. I must be a self-hating gay. Might as well end my life."
I agree with this.
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As for your guy. Oy vey! . He probably is bi, but read on some message board that that's not possible, so now he's trying to be straight.
I do get the joke
On a serious note. I do not think he is bi sexual. He is either gay and went back in the closet or is straight and lied to me. That being said I have never head of a guy who was straight saying he was gay so this would be a first for me.
I guess I find it odd that I can understand gays, but have a lack of understanding of bi's...... I wonder as a gay guy, have you ever came across gay guys who were still sorta haven't come out and "use" the bi thing to "cope" with their feelings for men. IDK....
If you don't wanna answer that is fine... I was just sorta thinking out loud....
I have a lesbain friend we talk about stuff... but I've never known a gay guy that I could ask that question to.... I don't wanna offend people so I don't go around polling people.... usually anyways....
Oddly, as a bisexual man, I have never known any gay men who call themselves bi to come to terms with being gay. Yet, I hear so many stories of people who had a friend who knew a guy...
Myself, I got so wrapped up in trying to be straight and deny my feelings for guys I eventually came out as gay. I wound up still having attractions to women and even wound up in therapy for it. I was like "WTH?". I actually had a hard time coming to terms with being bisexual and identified as gay for a bit and kept my attraction to women a secret. How's that for complicated?
Oddly, as a bisexual man, I have never known any gay men who call themselves bi to come to terms with being gay. Yet, I hear so many stories of people who had a friend who knew a guy...
Myself, I got so wrapped up in trying to be straight and deny my feelings for guys I eventually came out as gay. I wound up still having attractions to women and even wound up in therapy for it. I was like "WTH?". I actually had a hard time coming to terms with being bisexual and identified as gay for a bit and kept my attraction to women a secret. How's that for complicated?
The guys that I knew who called themselves bi because it made them more comfortable were raised very religiously and had a really hard time accepting their sexuality because of that. Hopefully someday people will just be accepted for who they are no matter what their sexuality.
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Oddly, as a bisexual man, I have never known any gay men who call themselves bi to come to terms with being gay. Yet, I hear so many stories of people who had a friend who knew a guy...
Myself, I got so wrapped up in trying to be straight and deny my feelings for guys I eventually came out as gay. I wound up still having attractions to women and even wound up in therapy for it. I was like "WTH?". I actually had a hard time coming to terms with being bisexual and identified as gay for a bit and kept my attraction to women a secret. How's that for complicated?
Yeah bi men get it from both sides (no pun intended lol).
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The guys that I knew who called themselves bi because it made them more comfortable were raised very religiously and had a really hard time accepting their sexuality because of that. Hopefully someday people will just be accepted for who they are no matter what their sexuality.
Well in religions that condemn homosexuality, it doesn't matter if you identify as fully gay or 'part gay', if you engage in homosexual behaviour or have lustful homosexual thoughts it's equally sinful.
Oddly, as a bisexual man, I have never known any gay men who call themselves bi to come to terms with being gay. Yet, I hear so many stories of people who had a friend who knew a guy...
Myself, I got so wrapped up in trying to be straight and deny my feelings for guys I eventually came out as gay. I wound up still having attractions to women and even wound up in therapy for it. I was like "WTH?". I actually had a hard time coming to terms with being bisexual and identified as gay for a bit and kept my attraction to women a secret. How's that for complicated?
Whew..... some crazy stuff there.
I thought you were a gay guy...
Well, I guess you have the advantage of a larger playing field.
I always felt a certain empathy for kids who were gay... IDK, I guess growing up is hard enough without having that extra "confusion" of having feelings for the same sex. The mixed messages you get from socieity in terms of homosexuals. IDK..... like I said being a teenager can be rough enough.......
I keep hearing in the media about kids committing suicide because of being taunted by people... man that just burns me up inside.....
I swear if I had a kid and I found out he was bullying another kid, specifically for being gay.... It would be a real hard challenge to deal with
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