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I worked with a woman who was a full time bartender for 5 years, then was a part time tender for the 3 yrs I knew her.
She would tell me that she would put female bartenders about 2 levels above strippers, 2 levels above because they were smart enough to extract money from customers while staying clothed, and could remember recipes. She told me that the only times she went with a customer was when they had/offered something she needed, whether that was housing, attention, gifts, or most often it was money. When that stopped, she quit seeing them. She would tell me that love was never factored into her equation.
She would go on to tell me that female bartenders were kinkier and had looser morals overall, and the booze, which she claimed alot of tenders get into the job because they love booze, had an integral part of it.
She told me that she was only truly in love with 3 guys in her whole life, guys who shifted her whole outlook on life, made her want to be and do better and to "straighten up". Considering how bat**** crazy she was, I still consider that one of my bigger bullets I have ever dodged.
that's harsh....but yea, if you tip well over and over again it raises your chances.
I don't agree with this perspective at all. I've made plenty of friends at places like this in the past...
Also there is no reason why you can't mix business with social relationship. I sell cars for a living, if a customer comes in who is really cool and likable, I would be friends with him in a heartbeat
If you're the OP and are so confident that what I (and others) are saying is wrong, why don't you start hitting on female bartenders? It may work in some cases, but I wouldn't hold my breath.
I'm not saying you can't mix business and pleasure. I'm saying that it's usually not a good idea. There's a difference between two co-workers of the same gender being friends, vs. opposite sex co workers dating or two people dating where one is the goods/service provider and the other a client/customer.
Normally I'd say you can approach anywhere, but this is one case I'd strongly advise against. Bartenders are probably hit on by 1 out of ever five people that sit at the bar, if not more. It's extremely unlikely you'd net any meaningful connection in such a context. Then comes the money aspect. Most of the time the bartenders work for tips in some capacity, if not altogether. So of course they'll be friednly. All in it's better to not bother. There are too many questions about whether the person is being genuie when dealing with bartenders/waiteres. That goes for both sides! You can still try, but be prepared to be disappointed unless the read you're getting from the person is just off the charts or something...
Years ago I worked a second job, bar waitress. The guys that stood out above the typical jerks, were the ones that were actually just making small talk, and sort of became someone you could really visit with for a couple minutes....Not obviously trying to pick you up or run lines on you. So, that would be my recommendation...Take it slow, build friendship....Also, it is ok to invite them out for coffee after work, after you visit a couple times. Don't hit on them, just have coffee and visit. If there is a mutual interest you'll know after a few dates. That will make you more memorable and easier to take seriously.
It's pretty pointless for the majority of men to try and pick up any half way decent looking women in any job that she has to interact with the public. She is getting hit on every single day by loser after loser, the odds of the average joe having any chance are slim to none, again unless you just happen to be extremely hot.
Women think all men are alike, if a female has a job where she has to put up with advances from guys every single day, she's not going to be receptive to you, no matter how charming you are.
Isn't it against the company's policy to give numbers to the customers? She can flirt in a friendly way for more tips.
Isn't it against the company's policy to give numbers to the customers? She can flirt in a friendly way for more tips.
Even if it is, doing this wouldn't be very hard to hide. I don't recommend trying to hit on women with such positions but, if they come to you (generally based on appearance), why not?
Even if it is, doing this wouldn't be very hard to hide. I don't recommend trying to hit on women with such positions but, if they come to you (generally based on appearance), why not?
It is on the employees if they want to jeopardize their jobs.
I go out and a lot of times, I see really cute young ladies working as waitresses/hostesses/etc... I never approached any of them because I assume they get hit on 50,000 times a day and have a billion options as a result
Is it even possible to date one of those ladies? Anybody here ever done it? Keep in mind I'm only talking about approaching them when it's very slow...I'm not going to hit on a woman in the middle of a very busy work shift
There is a bar I go to regularly here in Orlando, and initially I approached the bar tender. However I sensed her discomfort about that and have kept it light and friendly since. I notice my drinks have a bit more kick now
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