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In Denmark, it is quite common for both partners to go out with their friends without the other partner. This is generally because friendships in Denmark are long-lived, beginning in primary school or even earlier and lasting a life-time.
Sometimes my lady wood go with me, sometimes not. We used to hang out at the local neighborhood bar quite often. My good friend owned it. Over time the locals seemed as Family. Often we had Shuffleboard Tourney,or Pool, darts. Often on weekends had a BBQ, everyone brought some dish of food, or salad, or dessert. Tom supplied the meat.
Once in a while a local band wood play. There is a small dance floor.
For the bigger football games Tom had several TV's placed about. We had $$ Pool's for the games.
With some of our friends from here we went camping/fishing 3-4 days when weather was decent.
We all got along well. We had lots of Fun & wonderful memories...
Was out with a few lads in the weekend at bars. Lets just say temptation is everywhere. If I was single could have been banging a minimum of four candidates that night. Of course I'm not like that so nothing happened.
My point is for males already in a relationship and weaker males or males inclined to cheat, bars are one of the worst places you can go. One massive meat market full of temptation.
Every Thursday night I go to a local tavern with two friends of mine, one married, one single but dating someone. The place we go is sort of a sports bar with customers of all ages and it gets packed. We usually take a table near the bar. We order our drinks, some appetizers and mostly talk amongst ourselves while going to and from the games that are televised.
On any given night I can look around and I notice most of the younger generation, say below age 30, have their faces buried in their smartphones while their friends are sitting right across from one another. Not a lot of real time conversation taking place. Most of the over 30 crowd are talking and having real conversations with one another with a few exceptions. I sometimes wonder how any of these 20-somethings ever hook up at all since they rarely look away from their phones, the television, or one another. Temptation is one thing, opportunity is another.
Me personally, I think you can find temptation just as easily in any social setting or public establishment, it's all about your character and integrity. You can strike up casual conversation at church, the laundromat, work, on public transportation, or anywhere for that matter. Bars probably have an additional degree of compromise when adding alcohol to the equation, but if someone is going to cheat, they'll do it whether they are sober or not.
I also think you have to take into consideration the purpose of being in a bar when you're not with your S.O. Are you there to enjoy time with your group of friends for a few beers and some time to unwind such as my friends and I, or are you there to look for trouble? It's all about personal integrity and mutual respect.
Oh, so its more likely to cause infidelity/problems when you are married?
Didn't mean to imply that.
But...
Infidelity/problems are much different while considering dating vs. being married.
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