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Originally Posted by boolouwho
I think the words you are looking for are mature, loyal, honorable, etc.
What age group do you normally go for? I would try to find someone in their late 20's or early 30's. That age group as a whole might have more men ready to settle down.
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Yeah, maybe "clingy" is not the right word...
Well every guy I've ever dated was over 25.Youngest one was 26.
And even he was kind of immature...
oldest one was 33...had a stable job at a good company, nice income, a grown man...and yet...didn't stop him from going from one club to another and pick up another girl every night
Of course the older the better/the more serious they are (supposed to be, anyway
), but I think that it depends on the type of person really...you can find a really serious 19 year old (I have a 19 year old guy friend, dated this girl for 3 months, now they're living together *sigh*) or a 33 year old player...
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Also, another sign that may be good is if he has had long term relationships in the past. This shows that he was ready to commit in the past, and was not just content to drift around.
I have no idea if this is actually true, but maybe a single guy with children might be more serious in the women he spends time with? His kids of course should come first in his life, but I doubt he has a lot of time to see many women (and some women won't date him b/c of his kids). If he's a good dad, he'll refrain from introducing you to his children until he is sure that you two are compatible. Obviously, you should like children for this option and be prepared for their needs to be more important. You'll probably be doing more family friendly activities with him.
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Actually had a similar option like that as well...A woman I work with offered to introduce me to her son...He's 29...divorced, with 2 kids, but he doesn't really get to see them much.
I gave it some thought but figured I'd be setting myself up for a heartbreak if I actually meet with him...
I realize what I'm going to say will make me look soooo shallow to the people in this forum but the truth is...
I'm a little scared.I mean, god knows why they got divorced!and...after my last "relationship", I realized I might be the jealous type (though it probably had something to do with the fact that I'm probably gonna be scarred for life...you don't know how it feels to lay beside the guy you love so much, and hear how he gets a call in the middle of the night, from another girl, and he just picks up his stuff, throws some lame excuse and goes off to be with her.)
It breaks my heart to see my guy anywhere
near another girl...knowing my guy has KIDS from another woman...That he went through all of the stages already...proposed, got married, had kids...all with another woman...I think it'll be a torture for me.
I get it that people have history...but even if you get a divorce...you can't erase kids.
I know he could of been my soul mate...and he really did seem like a really nice guy...but...I just...couldn't.
I know I have issues...I'm nowhere near perfect...but you have to understand that I've suffered a lot.And it's not easy being repeatedly cheated on by somebody you'd do anything for
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Someone mentioned online dating, and meeting men who have a profile that projects responsibility. I think that is a great idea. Stable career, living on his own, established hobbies outside of drinking at bars are all positive signs.
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I'm not into the whole online dating thing.:/
I think people can write whatever they want in their profile but it doesn't always match reality.
I have a couple of friends who tried it and had a bad experience.(One of them met a guy who sat in jail, then when she tried to get away he was threatening her etc.)
Anyway, I don't really trust dating sites.
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One other thing....I wouldn't put off the vibe that you yourself are clingy. Develop your own life (if you haven't already) with hobbies and friends. You'll be a more interesting person and would be more attractive as a partner, and not just a friend with benefits.
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I do have my own life, but somehow it never attracts anybody good.
Most of the time I'm at work (6 sometimes 7 days a week, in fact) so that doesn't leave much time for hobbies (like, I love horse riding, but I just
don't have the time to go to the barn anymore...)
And most people at my work are over 50 so that doesn't leave me too many options
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EDIT: Do you have a dog? When I lived in Denver I took my dogs to the bark park on weekends and some mornings, and I met quite a few nice guys while our dogs played together. They generally gave off the vibe that they were responsible and able to care for something other than themselves.
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Unfortunately no...but I do know that usually guys that own/like pets are good guys (most of my guy friends have pets...) I met some really nice guys back in the days I used to ride...but, again...no time for hobbies no more
Thanks the advice anyway