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Old 11-11-2012, 01:17 PM
 
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Normally, the wife isn't expected to have a pregnancy-and-baby-care savings account. Most men know that supporting the wife for a little while in relation to the pregnancy (many women work through pregnancy these days, anyway) is part of the marriage package. And of course, all financial matters, spending patterns and expectations, should be discussed before marriage. That's common advise to couples, nothing new.

God, this whole conversation is just so pathetic


It's marriage, not a ******* business exchange. If I made 150K and my wife earned nothing, that would be perfectly fine as long as she was a good person and a good mom
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Old 11-11-2012, 01:18 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Bloody marvelous post! Your dead right on this.

I owe you a rep. In fact I owe you a lot more. It can be hoped that one day people understand what being a man is and it isn't being a bread winner or flexing pecks at the "ladies". I applaud thee, Mags' my good man, I applaud thee!
He got a lot of reps for that.
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Old 11-11-2012, 01:18 PM
 
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Do what you want man but most people are going to look down on a man who stays at home and lets his wife support him (outside of maybe a temporary thing while he's looking for a new job)
That's just the way it is. If it doesn't bother you, then that's fine for you. I would rather chop my nuts off than not earn any money
Most people who? The people who hang on this forum? One of my colleagues just starting working 1 1/2 ago after being a SAHD (in Japan and all over Europe) for 5 years. He's a chemist and former military. His wife is an orthodontist and was military as well (why they were on the international road). He's well invested and she earns 3-400k/yr. Do you really think anyone was or is looking down on him? He'd laugh in the face of anyone who bothered.

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Lol. I didn't say anything about you. I just said your mentality is different than mine.

You're just trying to argue...
You don't know what my mentality is, tho. You just assume and that has everything to do with you, not me. Just as Frog did. None of it's real, but you're arguing it.
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Old 11-11-2012, 01:18 PM
 
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You really don't respect my decision, tho. It obviously hurt you and I'm sorry that it did. I've always otherwise been nice to you, but if you want to bring to it to this level, ok. With that said, I've never understood the whole "it's your loss" thing. That probably deserves its own thread.
There was no disrespect in my post meant towards you, that I promise. I do respect your decision, as it's a personal choice based on how you live your life. If I didn't, I'd argue with you about the decision.

I'm not though, am I?

I do find it disrespectful that it took this long for you to tell me why you made your decision though. It's also my fault for not directly asking you about it, too.

And on the "it's your loss thing" it literally IS your loss lol. You chose to lose something!
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Old 11-11-2012, 01:19 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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God, this whole conversation is just so pathetic


It's marriage, not a ******* business exchange. If I made 150K and my wife earned nothing, that would be perfectly fine as long as she was a good person and a good mom
You'll have to convince some of your fellow males here of that. Good luck.
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Old 11-11-2012, 01:19 PM
 
Location: Windsor, Ontario, Canada
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Bloody marvelous post! Your dead right on this.

I owe you a rep. In fact I owe you a lot more. It can be hoped that one day people understand what being a man is and it isn't being a bread winner or flexing pecks at the "ladies". I applaud thee, Mags' my good man, I applaud thee!

LOL! Thanks, Baldrick.



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Do what you want man but most people are going to look down on a man who stays at home and lets his wife support him (outside of maybe a temporary thing while he's looking for a new job)


That's just the way it is. If it doesn't bother you, then that's fine for you. I would rather chop my nuts off than not earn any money

Meh.
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Old 11-11-2012, 01:21 PM
 
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I don't know why he would bring it up. It's been a year now IIRC.
I have a brain that remembers things, and I don't randomly lose friends, whether on here or IRL,so I used it as an example. All it was.
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Old 11-11-2012, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Windsor, Ontario, Canada
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He got a lot of reps for that.

I did.

Thanks folks.


Baldrick and me.....we be good people.
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Old 11-11-2012, 01:23 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Do you also do 50% of the pregnancy and 50% of the childbirth? Because if you don't - then things aren't really equal. You need to carry the child for 4.5 months and then you have to also be in labor and push for half the time as well.
I see this has remained unanswered. Someone seems to be dodging the question. Next think you know, I'll be getting a dam thrown at me!
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Old 11-11-2012, 01:23 PM
 
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IOW..if she agrees taking part to what should be a mutual, equal partnership (some call corporation)
The ultimate marriage-as-business-exchange post. Marriage as a corporation.
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