Did you get married in your 20s? When did you start having children? The turning point for me is here...
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Well, I'll be 21 (just turned 20) and my fiancee will be either 20 or 21 when we get married sometime in early 2014 and we also plan on starting a family within the next few years. However, a lot of my graduating classmates have already gotten married and had babies though. I'm always seeing pregnancy announcements, sonograms, engagements and baby pictures etc on Facebook.
Most other people on my dad's side of the family were married with a baby before 20, including my half brother who married at 16 thirteen years ago. However, we don't live in a rural area. We live in south Florida.
I think your 30s are a little bit too old to get married and start a family, no offense to anyone. But of course, everyone's ready for different things at different times.
OP, your 20 with your whole life in front of you! At 20, you likely have not really discovered and learned your true self or solidified your true identity yet! Whats the hurry?
Of course there is no manual which says what is the perfect age for marriage, kids, etc. A lot of that is dependent on individuals goals, plans, intentions, luck (or absense of intentions), surprises, or whatever.
The only thing I would advise on is not to feel pressure because your not about to be married or be a parent. Just because it is what someone else did does not mean you must. You do not need to conform to anyone elses sensibilities in this regard. Just to your own.
i got married at 20. now at the age of 30 i'm separated from my hubby of ten years. not saying that this can or will be the case for most; but in my situation i didn't know who i truly was when i made that trip down the aisle. now that i've experienced a few things and have "grown" up what i wanted ten years ago is entirely different than what i want and need today. to make the long story short, i realized he wasn't the right one for me.
I paid zero attention when I turned 20...it was just another birthday for me. I got married at 23, we've been married 5 years now, I have no regrets. My wife is 34, so we're starting to think about kids mainly because of her age, but not entirely sure yet. If it happens, it happens, if not, we'll deal with that too. I don't have a problem thinking about kids in my 20's, my parents had me young as well.
My sister got married and had kids young, and now that she's in her 40s she's got an empty nest and can pretty much do whatever she wants, so there's that benefit, too.
i personally believe getting married at the age of twenty is too young. you barely know who you are and what you want at the age of twenty. who you are attracted to at twenty could be totally different at the age of 30 or 40.
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