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I'm married but must confess I miss being single. I have a great husband and I wouldn't leave him, but married life is borrrring. At least mine is. I miss going out at night and not knowing who I would run into, who I would meet, what could happen. Now a days I just spend every evening finding ways to entertain myself while my husband is absorbed in his computer.
If I could do it over I'd stay single forever. Or ideally, marry someone who was down with having an open marriage. When I was single I was out every night and had no shortage of potential suitors. Maybe it's different being a single woman versus a single man.
People have asked if I would have wanted to be a 40 year old woman hanging out in bars, hooking up with random guys..and I'm starting to think that the answer is yes. I'd probably settle down around 45.
I was reading an interesting article today about how men have this illusion of the single life being so great. It got me thinking. There is this myth that single men are living like Vinnie Chase in Entourage... fancy cars, girls, sex, alcohol, drugs, money, etc. The reality is, once you hit your late 20s, the single life sort of sucks. I had some fun hanging with my buddies back in college, but frankly i think this has more to do with not having a full-time job and not having too many financial responsibilities. Friends of mine who had girlfriends in college also had a great time. I think college is a pretty easygoing time regardless of whether you are single or attached.
Once you get older, all your best friends from college are mostly engaged or married, and you see them maybe once every 3 months, if that. The reality of single life most days is getting up, going to work, going to the gym after work, and coming home watching ESPN and/or Seinfeld reruns. Here and there you will go out with your work buddies but that's about it. Contrary to popular belief, most single guys aren't getting laid left and right. Unless you are extremely good-looking and/or rich, your sex life is probably more porn sites and self-gratification than anything else. Maybe here and there you hook up with someone, but most women past a certain age aren't looking for random hookups. More likely, you'll go to sleep on those cold winter nights feeling just as lonely as single women do.
Being single is certainly preferable to being in a bad relationship, but it's not really all that it's cracked up to be. Married guys and/or guys with girlfriends truly are not missing out on anything. I think the best option for most people is to find someone you get along with and whose company you enjoy. Don't get all worried about this illusion of fantasy life in the single world. Unless you are really making a lot of money, it's unlikely that reality is anything close to the myth.
Burgler said it best. I'd add to it.
Single life is great if that's what you want, however, if you are involuntarily single, i.e. you want to be in a relationship but it's just not working out for you, then it would be a miserable experience.
I know a person who is exquisitely happy being single. She left an abusive marriage and has sworn never to tie the knot again. She gained weight, now looks like a human being and spends most of her days savouring pleasure.
I'm married but must confess I miss being single. I have a great husband and I wouldn't leave him, but married life is borrrring. At least mine is. I miss going out at night and not knowing who I would run into, who I would meet, what could happen. Now a days I just spend every evening finding ways to entertain myself while my husband is absorbed in his computer.
If I could do it over I'd stay single forever. Or ideally, marry someone who was down with having an open marriage. When I was single I was out every night and had no shortage of potential suitors. Maybe it's different being a single woman versus a single man.
People have asked if I would have wanted to be a 40 year old woman hanging out in bars, hooking up with random guys..and I'm starting to think that the answer is yes. I'd probably settle down around 45.
Would be very difficult trying to find a man at the age of 45. Just ask some of the 45 year olds out there in the bars trying to fit in with 20 somethings. Not a good look at all.
im 64. i learned one trick. dont marry. u will remain a handsome prince forever. if you marry u will turn into a frog in 24 months. ask any divorced woman.
I'm married but must confess I miss being single. I have a great husband and I wouldn't leave him, but married life is borrrring. At least mine is. I miss going out at night and not knowing who I would run into, who I would meet, what could happen. Now a days I just spend every evening finding ways to entertain myself while my husband is absorbed in his computer.
If I could do it over I'd stay single forever. Or ideally, marry someone who was down with having an open marriage. When I was single I was out every night and had no shortage of potential suitors. Maybe it's different being a single woman versus a single man.
People have asked if I would have wanted to be a 40 year old woman hanging out in bars, hooking up with random guys..and I'm starting to think that the answer is yes. I'd probably settle down around 45.
Can't you go out with girlfriends? It sounds like you and your husband need to have a talk. He's neglecting you, that's why you're bored. Are there kids involved? If not, why isn't your husband having sex with you, instead of being on the computer? This sounds like a marriage that's slowly starving.
I'm married but must confess I miss being single. I have a great husband and I wouldn't leave him, but married life is borrrring. At least mine is. I miss going out at night and not knowing who I would run into, who I would meet, what could happen. Now a days I just spend every evening finding ways to entertain myself while my husband is absorbed in his computer.
If I could do it over I'd stay single forever. Or ideally, marry someone who was down with having an open marriage. When I was single I was out every night and had no shortage of potential suitors. Maybe it's different being a single woman versus a single man.
People have asked if I would have wanted to be a 40 year old woman hanging out in bars, hooking up with random guys..and I'm starting to think that the answer is yes. I'd probably settle down around 45.
I have always wondered about this. I get bored easily and I have always wondered what would happen if I get married to someone and I get bored. Tough situation, but I bet there are many women in your shoes.
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