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You would be deleted for not knowing the difference between "of" and "have," and for abuse of punctuation. Plus I don't get the joke or reference to the dog.
Living in WV it is very rare to find someone with a basic grasp of 5th grade English so my delete button gets a lot of action. When I get a guy who clearly knows his way around Strunk & White I almost always message back.
+1 for Strunk & White reference. Gotta be a first on this site!
You would be deleted for not knowing the difference between "of" and "have," and for abuse of punctuation. Plus I don't get the joke or reference to the dog.
Living in WV it is very rare to find someone with a basic grasp of 5th grade English so my delete button gets a lot of action. When I get a guy who clearly knows his way around Strunk & White I almost always message back.
You would be deleted for not knowing the difference between "of" and "have," and for abuse of punctuation. Plus I don't get the joke or reference to the dog.
Living in WV it is very rare to find someone with a basic grasp of 5th grade English so my delete button gets a lot of action. When I get a guy who clearly knows his way around Strunk & White I almost always message back.
Part of the problem is that many women give you so little in terms of detail to go off of in their profiles, that sometimes it's hard to say much more than a line or two. Sort of hard to run with "Sometimes I like to get dressed up and go out, and sometimes I like to stay home on the couch in a t-shirt" kind of stuff.
I've wrtitten anything from one or two lines to several large paragraphs in online dating messages, and it doesn't seem to have much impact on response rates either way, though a "middle ground" between these two extremes seems best.
I've noticed while browsing POF and OkC a few women have "Please don't message me with 'Hey, what's up?' as I won't respond."
What?
That's called a GREETING!
Don't women take that as cue to read the guys profile, if they like it - THEN respond?
Why the need to circumvent the greeting, and totally rewrite how conversations are performed?
It's a generic greeting. You wouldn't email a recruiter with your resume attached and simply put "Hello" in the subject and "I'd like to apply for this job" in the body.
I have yet to get a date from one of these sites, but whenever I get a response to a message it's usually because I bothered to ask about something I saw on their profile. Read their profile, find something interesting, ask about it. They like to know you actually delved into it beyond just pictures.
e: For instance, how do you feel when a girl responds with nothing but a couple sentences and no question posed to you? I know it annoys me and I usually terminate the conversation if it happens more than once.
As soon as a woman puts something in her profile that starts with "don't message me if..." I stop reading right there and move on.
If she can't appreciate a friendly message from anyone who shows interest then how can she appreciate a great guy? The answer: She can't. Best to find someone else worthy of your message.
Hmm...this is a logic I disagree with to an extent. Just because someone specifies that they don't want certain kind of people messaging them doesn't mean they can't appreciate a great person. If you stop reading at that point, that means you didn't give her a chance to present if she can, you just assumed she couldn't based on false logic caused by limited reading of her profile.
There's a difference from a woman who puts, "Don't message me if you aren't physically fit." and a woman who says, "Don't message me if are looking for a one night stand or nude pictures/trades." It would be better to finish reading to see the context which she is coming from before judging her as she can't appreciate a great guy. And yes, people do post those comments on dating sites, because you have individuals who will send you nudes and offer one night stands in uncivil manners after you clearly said you were looking for something serious. In the case of the second, woman, she puts that because she doesn't want to waste her time nor the other persons time I'd that's what they are looking for. She shows focus. So, she makes it clear that anyone who is looking for that type of interaction are better off approaching someone else. This in no way says she isn't worthy of your message. In fact, if you are looking for something serious too, she is very well worthy of it. She's showing that she respects herself and will not engage in things that don't help her to achieve whatever relationship or dating goals she have. I would think that men would honour a woman who sets that boundary on the internet. However, the first woman shows that she likely will not appreciate a good guy purely because he doesn't look a certain way. Your logic would make more sense there.
I've seen guys do these two things and the guy I would message is the one who says he's not looking a one night stand or nude trade. To me he's worthy of my message since he shows that he's focused on finding that relationship he said that he wanted, and is likely not interested in playing games. A guy who says a woman has to be a certain way physically shows that he isn't focused solely on finding a good woman. Especially since I've noticed that some women who fit certain physical shapes(this is referring to ranges of body types. Simply because depending on that woman's experience she is popular with men) have bad attitudes.
Zombie thread! Haven't seen this topic in several months. How timely.
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