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My parents are dead and buried now but every Thanksgiving they use to fight like cats and dogs about my mothers DEMAND that he come along and stay at her parents house over the long Thanksgiving Vacation. My father fought back tooth and nail but after all the shouting he would come along and sleep on the lumpy mattress and have a miserable time for the LONG weekend (Thanksgiving, Friday, Saturday and Sunday). The relatives would declare war if we stayed in a hotel.
My father just hated the relatives on my mothers side of the family and they hated him too (but only passive aggressively- no shouting or physical altercations- just lots of eye rolling, avoidance, angry looks, silence, sighs, and gossip when he was not in the room)
It was painful to watch especially as we got older and could see the severe animosity. Can you relate? Any stories to tell?
It's all about the quid pro quo. I put up with my wife's family on odd Thanksgivings and she puts up with mine on even ones.
And Christmas, by God, we stay in town. If they want to see us, they come to us. The logistics of going somewhere with three kids for Christmas are just too awful to contemplate.
My parents are dead and buried now but every Thanksgiving they use to fight like cats and dogs about my mothers DEMAND that he come along and stay at her parents house over the long Thanksgiving Vacation. My father fought back tooth and nail but after all the shouting he would come along and sleep on the lumpy mattress and have a miserable time for the LONG weekend (Thanksgiving, Friday, Saturday and Sunday). The relatives would declare war if we stayed in a hotel.
My father just hated the relatives on my mothers side of the family and they hated him too (but only passive aggressively- no shouting or physical altercations- just lots of eye rolling, avoidance, angry looks, silence, sighs, and gossip when he was not in the room)
It was painful to watch especially as we got older and could see the severe animosity. Can you relate? Any stories to tell?
I'm sad that you had to suffer their inability to get along. As I said, both my husband and I find our families annoying, but we work hard to practice tolerance because our kids deserve better than what you describe above.
I would rather watch paint dry than spend Thanksgiving (or any other day of the year) at my MIL's house. Recently we have been having Thanksgiving at our house so that makes the day more tolerable. I always remain polite because I really don't want to hear about it later from my wife. To get away I have started my own tradition of taking the kids to the Thanksgiving Day Parade in the City. By the time we get back home dinner is soon ready and after dinner its time for the game (football) so I only have to socialize with her in the same room for about 45 minutes tops. Before I know it she hops on her broom and goes home. A stress free day and my wife is not upset with me. Everyone is happy.
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