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Old 11-22-2012, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Raleigh NC
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I guess because the women who are interested usually respond with "so how are you" They are showing some interest in getting to know me

So I see a thanks as "thanks but no thanks"
It's funny you just responded because I was going to come back and edit and say "I bet you're taking that as 'thanks but no thanks'"...lol...

Listen, coming from a veteran of online dating for many years, I promise you if she felt "THanks but no thanks" she would NOT respond at all.

Take it as "Thanks. Now I have no idea what to say back but the fact that I"m responding should give you indication that I'm interested."

Instead of getting angry, just respond back and then if she doesn't respond, THEN you can assume it was '
thanks but no thanks'...

Trust me, girls love a guy that leads the way, and sometimes is tenacious about it.
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Old 11-22-2012, 08:36 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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I would propose that it has to do with a lack of confidence in who you are, and a very thin skin, unable to accept rejection.
It's a pretty classic example of gross immaturity.

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I do this. They do that. I hate the response. But I keep doing the same thing. And getting the same result. I forget if this is the definition of dumb or crazy.
It was Albert Einstein who said, "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results". Some people just never get off the merry-go-round of total futility ...
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Old 11-22-2012, 08:40 AM
 
Location: Des Moines IA
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In public she has no choice but to say thanks. On the web she has the option of ignoring me. She would be unable to ignore me in public


LMAO!!!! No choice??? You need to get out more my man. So many women have rolled their eyes and ignored me just for saying hi to them, it's not even funny, and I am pretty sure many guys have had the same thing happen to them. So let me ask you, if it did happen to you in person, would you tackle her until she gave up the digits?
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Old 11-22-2012, 08:42 AM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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LMAO!!!! No choice??? You need to get out more my man. So many women have rolled their eyes and ignored me just for saying hi to them, it's not even funny, and I am pretty sure many guys have had the same thing happen to them. So let me ask you, if it did happen to you in person, would you tackle her until she gave up the digits?

Well women would not get away with that in Philly because they would be verbally abused so they know they have to smile and say thank you and say they have a man if not interested.
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Old 11-22-2012, 08:43 AM
 
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Well women would not get away with that in Philly because they would be verbally abused so they know they have to smile and say thank you and say they have a man if not interested.
Pfft, who are you trying to kid?
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Old 11-22-2012, 08:46 AM
 
Location: Des Moines IA
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Well women would not get away with that in Philly because they would be verbally abused so they know they have to smile and say thank you and say they have a man if not interested.

Whatever dude, just like anywhere else, if a man started verbally abusing them, the woman would start verbally abusing them back in many cases.
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Old 11-22-2012, 09:15 AM
 
Location: NYC
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In general I reply with "thanks" if a man has complimented me because I truly do appreciate the compliment. If I am interested in him, I will try to extend the conversation by commenting on something in his profile. If not, it will just be a thanks.
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Old 11-22-2012, 09:23 AM
 
Location: DFW
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It's a pretty classic example of gross immaturity.
I was going to tell TVSG he continues to act like a 14 year old middle school student about the ladies.

You said it much more PC. Thanks.
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Old 11-22-2012, 03:26 PM
 
Location: Australia
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I don't like my EYESIGHT being wasted on stupid messages.
Neither do I, so stop posting.

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Old 11-22-2012, 04:03 PM
 
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I think deleting and blocking is ruder than a simple "thanks"? I see what you mean by you getting excited that you get a message and it's only that but if you look at it from their point of view, someone gave them a compliment but they weren't interested in you, so they gave you a polite thanks. If that happened in real life you wouldn't just ignore the person and walk away would you? They probably weren't being mean to you
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