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Old 11-26-2012, 07:01 PM
 
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Ever heard of this? I've seen this phenomenon many times and have even had it happen to me a couple of times. On two separate occasions, a guy I liked didn't want me but as soon as I started showing interest in another guy, he tried to ruin it.

What causes this?


Is it an animal type of possessiveness/territorialness, or do they just feel good having a backup that waits for them forever and ever?

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Old 11-26-2012, 07:06 PM
 
Location: Atlanta & NYC
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Saps who don't know how to properly break up.
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Old 11-26-2012, 07:08 PM
 
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Saps who don't know how to properly break up.
Yeah I get that, but I'm talking about cases where you were never together.

(that's funny though, lol)
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Old 11-26-2012, 07:10 PM
 
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I've seen it happen a couple of times. I think it's the you don't know what you got untill they are gone thing. And then when said person finds someone it hits them how they felt about them. Or maybe they are just jealous of what could of been.
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Old 11-26-2012, 07:11 PM
 
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Yeah I get that, but I'm talking about cases where you were never together.

(that's funny though, lol)
They're pretty weird, then. That kind of possessiveness is only seen when there has been a flame that burned, for at least a while. There are some Hollywood stories of famous men who were insanely jealous of other men who got near their wives/girlfriends, even after they had split up. I can't think of the names right now.
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Old 11-26-2012, 07:13 PM
 
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I've seen it happen a couple of times. I think it's the you don't know what you got untill they are gone thing. And then when said person finds someone it hits them how they felt about them. Or maybe they are just jealous of what could of been.
Maybe the bolded is it.

But, that can't be, because I would think they would have been with me if it seemed like something good.
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Old 11-26-2012, 07:14 PM
 
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They're pretty weird, then. That kind of possessiveness is only seen when there has been a flame that burned, for at least a while. There are some Hollywood stories of famous men who were insanely jealous of other men who got near their wives/girlfriends, even after they had split up. I can't think of the names right now.
Oooh now I want to know.
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Old 11-26-2012, 07:16 PM
 
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It's a normal, basic human emotion, but it's one you're supposed to outgrow by third grade.

I actually examined this sentiment this weekend when the 2 year old at our house decided she didn't want her pretzels but when her father suggested he give them to her friend, she said "No, they're mine."
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Old 11-26-2012, 07:17 PM
 
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Maybe the bolded is it.

But, that can't be, because I would think they would have been with me if it seemed like something good.

To quote The Doors "People are strange"
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Old 11-26-2012, 07:19 PM
 
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Yeah I get that, but I'm talking about cases where you were never together.

(that's funny though, lol)
Never together? What the??? Then they're a creepy stalker with a mental problem and should not be members of the society in which I live in.
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