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OK so my coworkers and I were having a debate about this. So I thought it would be a great thread topic.
Quick summary of the situation:
Coworker got a note from a guy who works at one of our partners to meet up some time. She wants to go, because she wants to be friends. She has a boyfriend and has no interest that way. They both like specialty cocktails, and that is what prompted the invite.
So we started polling the men in my office.
They all said "if she asks you for drinks, she wants to hook up. Go out for coffee instead."
She was just thinking of it being a friendly happy hour, if she were to initiate an outing.
So guys, chime in? Do you agree with my maie coworkers? [The men were in their 20s and 30s]
The guys in your office gave you 'real world' typical guy answers... Alcohol is often used as an excuse and those guys know it...
OK so my coworkers and I were having a debate about this. So I thought it would be a great thread topic.
Quick summary of the situation:
Coworker got a note from a guy who works at one of our partners to meet up some time. She wants to go, because she wants to be friends. She has a boyfriend and has no interest that way. They both like specialty cocktails, and that is what prompted the invite.
So we started polling the men in my office.
They all said "if she asks you for drinks, she wants to hook up. Go out for coffee instead."
She was just thinking of it being a friendly happy hour, if she were to initiate an outing.
So guys, chime in? Do you agree with my maie coworkers? [The men were in their 20s and 30s]
Friendly happy hour my @ss. If she goes alone, she's looking for trouble. If she takes her boyfriend with her, then it's fine.
If she invited me for drinks at happy hour and its just the two of us, then I would think she's interested(and I wouldn't go unless I was interested). If I got there and she told me she already had a boyfriend and wanted to be just friends I would throw a drink in her face.
OK so my coworkers and I were having a debate about this. So I thought it would be a great thread topic.
Quick summary of the situation:
Coworker got a note from a guy who works at one of our partners to meet up some time. She wants to go, because she wants to be friends. She has a boyfriend and has no interest that way. They both like specialty cocktails, and that is what prompted the invite.
So we started polling the men in my office.
They all said "if she asks you for drinks, she wants to hook up. Go out for coffee instead."
She was just thinking of it being a friendly happy hour, if she were to initiate an outing.
So guys, chime in? Do you agree with my maie coworkers? [The men were in their 20s and 30s]
If a woman asked me out for a drink I wouldnt think that she wants to "hook up", I would simply think that she wants to go out and drink. Maybe she doesnt want to go alone and wants some company.
MEN: Just because a woman TALKS to you or is NICE to you doesnt mean that she wants to "hook up" I wish guys would get out of that mindset.
If the girl doesn't make the guy aware she has a boyfriend upfront in some way, regardless of bar or coffee, she's leading the other guy on and being sneaky.
If it were a guy with a girlfriend, same thing, he's need to let people know he has a GF. People need to be clear and up front about intentions. I'm sorry, we can play the "we just want to be friends" game, but thats all BS. Most people in their 20's are looking to date, hook up or whatever with the opposite sex. Yeah, there are the "lets be friends you're so interesting and we have a hobby in common" people, but more often than not, a cup of coffee with someone you'd normally be attracted to is not about friendship.
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), but there are people who do genuinely think that way, and it's ridiculous.
