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I am 41 and never married/childless. I am fine with never marrying but would like a partner. I do know a lot of people who married past 35 so there is hope for everyone.
I'm 35. I'm female. I've never been married, and the jury's out on whether or not I will be able to have kids...congenital abnormality. I dated non-seriously and semi-seriously in my twenties and was in a cohabiting relationship from 30-35. I'm single again, and dating loads more than I did in my twenties. Can't say life is dull. And I'm in a better place, career-wise and independence-wise than when I was in my midtwenties, more self-confident, and know more what I want. It's working out just fine.
For guys: More money, less problems/obligations, more freedom, more career opportunities, more incentive to stay in good shape and continue to look good, more sex.
For women: it probably sucks as they've been told their entire lives that they must grow up, get married, and have kids by a certain age or else they have failed as a female.
+1. For men it can be great. Women on the other hand probably sit around and eat rocky road ice and watch sex in the city and get depressed because all their friends are married.
+1. For men it can be great. Women on the other hand probably sit around and eat rocky road ice and watch sex in the city and get depressed because all their friends are married.
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Originally Posted by bicoastal10
For guys: More money, less problems/obligations, more freedom, more career opportunities, more incentive to stay in good shape and continue to look good, more sex.
For women: it probably sucks as they've been told their entire lives that they must grow up, get married, and have kids by a certain age or else they have failed as a female.
I'd rather hear from the women directly about their lives but if you two are 35+ you can share if your life is still adventurous and what you do.
+1. For men it can be great. Women on the other hand probably sit around and eat rocky road ice and watch sex in the city and get depressed because all their friends are married.
I dont associate being in a relationship with a loss of freedom, so I dont understand why so many people list that as a benefit. It almost seems like people are.trying to convince themselves of somethong....
For me, the problem if not having kids is that I dont have a motivation to achieve for someone other than myself. I have a Director level job so I have done fairly well, but I am bored and find myself thinking "who cares?" I travel a lot, for work and for myself; it is a bit of a downer to arrive home after two weeks and have no one care. It isnt that I wish I had kids, because I dont. But 20+ more years of doing this (work, work, work) sounds very boring. I am in the process of figuring out what I will do next with my life.
I dont associate being in a relationship with a loss of freedom, so I dont understand why so many people list that as a benefit. It almost seems like people are.trying to convince themselves of somethong....
I see the benefits of both but I did not create this thread to discuss whether being single or marred is better (do we really need another one of those?). I was just curious about single, never married, no kids folks over 35. What kinds of adventures they have.
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