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Old 12-03-2012, 12:38 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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If you say fake nice; would you also prefer you be treated that way?
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:39 PM
 
Location: Westminster, CO
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There is some room between brutally honest and fake nice. A whole lot of room.
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:39 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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It depends on what you're talking about.
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:40 PM
 
Location: Toledo
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How about neither. Honesty and tact don't have to be mutually exclusive.
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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How about neither. Honesty and tact don't have to be mutually exclusive.
Right on. Honesty doesn't need to be brutal.
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:49 PM
 
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I prefer genuine.
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Old 12-03-2012, 12:55 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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This is kind of like asking whether you'd like someone to punch you in the face or lick you all over the face. Um... neither?
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Old 12-03-2012, 01:04 PM
 
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Why are there only two alternatives?

Unless somebody has Aspergers or something, it's quite possible to express one's honest opinion in a diplomatic way that makes your opinion unmistakable. In fact, it's very easy. Hell, I disagree with my clients all the time and they don't seem to mind.

As a matter of fact, I pretty much distrust anyone who prides himself on being blunt or frank. That means that person is incapable of caring about the other person's feelings.
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Old 12-03-2012, 01:06 PM
 
Location: Australia
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It depends entirely on the situation.

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Old 12-03-2012, 01:18 PM
 
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I don't prefer fake nice. I see it all the time in Orange County.

I'm really surprised how people prefer being fake over being sincere.
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