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they're not going to tell you the truth anyways. how many times does a man cop to being the one that 'ruined' the marriage with cheating or whatever? That's laughable & even more so if he wants to remain in your good graces. Nine times out of ten, they will put it all on the other person.
He can paint any kind of picture he wants because you don't know her, but if you asked her, you'd probably get an entirely different story I bet.
When my wife asked me about my previous marriage on our very first date. I gave her the straight scoop, warts and all. I copped to the things I felt were on my side, I laid out the things that I thought were on my ex's side.
There's no margin in lying about things like that. You can either go into a new relationship based on openness and trust or you can start lying right off the bat. Lying right off the bat may be a short term win, but it's a long term lose. It's much easier to tell the truth.
When my wife asked me about my previous marriage on our very first date. I gave her the straight scoop, warts and all. I copped to the things I felt were on my side, I laid out the things that I thought were on my ex's side.
There's no margin in lying about things like that. You can either go into a new relationship based on openness and trust or you can start lying right off the bat. Lying right off the bat may be a short term win, but it's a long term lose. It's much easier to tell the truth.
Yes it's much easier to just tell the truth and I'm sure you did on the first date, if you say so. But unfortunately do I think majority of divorced men go that route? Yea right. I have known several men that lied about their marriage circumstances or should I said came up with tall tales that were too good to be true.
Usually people volunteer that kind of information as you get to know them.
Unless you are very young, nearly everyone has been in some kind of relationship that didn't pan out as hoped or expected. Even if you remain single, the only difference may be that you managed not to get married when someone else walked down the aisle. The potential for baggage is nearly the same.
Divorce is just something that happens. I'd be more concerned about other things in any potential LTR.
I was all prepared to say....While you are still married......But in your case, as you are dating folks who've been divorced...It is one of those taks that should be had pretty early in the dating relationship. That, along w/ all your opportunities to observe how this person acts around their children, if they have them. Also, anyone still gripping about their Ex should be avoided imo.
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