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Old 12-05-2012, 06:55 PM
 
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With all the threads here on being nice & such I have to ask, whats the problem in being nice overall? Is there one? We've all heard that nice guys finish last, etc. Does that include women as well? Are we more gullible then other people because we believe in romance, etc? Why do nice men & women get knocked on? Are we naive to some extent?
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Old 12-05-2012, 07:00 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Hmm I'm nice and can be a b*tch. I'm a fighter what can I say? The world is harsh.
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Old 12-05-2012, 07:07 PM
 
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There is nothing wrong with being nice. There is something wrong with thinking people are entitled to be "nice" back to you because you were "nice" to them. That makes you a douche. There is something wrong with being a douche.
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Old 12-05-2012, 07:07 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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There is NOTHING wrong with being nice.

But being nice is not a quality that is seen as desirable because people confuse it with being weak.

If you've ever been with a person who is kind and does the right thing, you will never want to live a life without it.

There is a difference between "nice" and "passive."

There is an apt quote:

"Don’t ever mistake my silence for ignorance, my calmness for acceptance and my kindness for weakness."
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Old 12-05-2012, 07:08 PM
 
Location: DFW
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Nice is good ... but there is not letting people take advantage of your niceness.

Being able to say NO is a powerful tool.
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Old 12-05-2012, 07:11 PM
 
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There is such a thing as too nice. I have an ex that was too nice and people took advantage of him all the time. He also never stood up to me or spoke his mind in our relationship. I felt like I had to wear the pants and I hated it.

Nice is OK; Too nice is not OK.
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Old 12-05-2012, 07:13 PM
 
Location: FL
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No there's not. No such thing. It took me til I was 30 to find my true love of 15 years now and that's one thing she asked me a lot in the beginning..."How come you are so nice to me?". I'd answer, I like you, love you and want you. It really is that simple.
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Old 12-05-2012, 07:27 PM
 
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There is nothing wrong with being nice. There is something wrong with thinking people are entitled to be "nice" back to you because you were "nice" to them. That makes you a douche. There is something wrong with being a douche.
I don't think I'm getting the gist of what you are saying. Please give example or explain further.
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Old 12-05-2012, 07:32 PM
 
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I definitely think there is such a thing. If you find that people are taking you for granted it's time to bring it back a few notches.

I've been treated as such a couple of times. When I brought the thunder, people didn't know how to take it, but they figured it out real quick.
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Old 12-05-2012, 07:35 PM
 
Location: Pa
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I definitely think there is such a thing. If you find that people are taking you for granted it's time to bring it back a few notches.

I've been treated as such a couple of times. When I brought the thunder, people didn't know how to take it, but they figured it out real quick.
Did ya fart? Lol j/k.
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