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I am strange and weird in that some things in my life needs to be very specific to exactly what I need. Take relationships for example. I examined my past relationships and find that whether or not I was in love, I didn't seem to be happy. I would wake up feeling trapped and miserable. I almost went on anti-depressants because of a guy. And I couldn't do that whole FWB thing either. But on the other hand, I love men, I love flirting and I do get lonely. It's just that I have less days waking up feeling sad when I'm single (and it goes away faster) than when I'm in a relationship, but either way, I'm sure we all have those days. And one weird thing about me different from most girls is that, most girls when they have a new guy, they tend to spend all their time on the guy. When I have a new guy, I tend to ignore them and spend more time with my friends. I always put my friends first. And I always try to be friends with everyone. So I think that confuses guys and confuses me. Sometimes I don't get the whole relationship thing either. Especially when someone wouldn't go somewhere because their SO isn't going even though they really wanted to (no offense to anyone that's on here that's like that). I feel like I'm going to get a lot of negative remarks because I'm probably different than most people on this forum, but that is the way I am. I want to be happy too, but I can't seem to find a happy medium between being in a relationship and being single. Maybe an open relationship? (Not like with other people, but the kind where you don't need contact every day). I just don't like this whole dependency on another human being. But I also want someone around for me when I need them (kind of like a good friend, and don't get me wrong, I'm always there for friends when they need me). Gosh, please don't make fun of me. I'm just being honest and don't act like you don't have issues.
Hey, I'm just looking for sexual exclusivity with someone I like and respect who matches my insane sex drive. I don't need the whole love and living together thing. Basically, an exclusive FWB relationship, where the F and the B carry equal weight - if something more develops out of that, fine, but it's not a requirement or expectation. I'm having a hard time finding that, so I understand where you're coming from in a certain sense.
But your post confuses me. You seem to be looking for emotional support and unwilling to give the same in return. Why are you not getting the emotional support that you need if you have so many friends and whatnot? Why do you think you deserve emotional support from someone you are not willing to prioritize above your friends (who are not apparently meeting all of your emotional needs). You seem to be very emotionally dependent on other people, actually.
Look, the rule of relationships I've found is that on average, you are going to get out of it what you are willing to put in. And you don't really have a right to expect more than that. No guy is going to want to be your sex toy and your emotional support staff if you're going to prioritize your friends when it matters.
How old are you? I was afraid to commit when I was younger. I often felt lonely and like I wanted someone, but when someone came along I would start to feel trapped and run away. I think you just have to find the person who wants what you want. Relationships are flexible and they vary a lot. There are plenty of guys out there who don't need contact everyday. Plenty of guys are fine with casual dating. You just have to find someone who is okay with what you want.
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