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Old 12-07-2012, 01:21 PM
 
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I had a great living situation until about 12 hours ago. Iím a 29 year old guy and was living with an old co-worker of mine, who is a 26 year old female.

So, last night, my roommate and I went out to a DJ show with a fellow friend. Drank way too much, headed back home, and ended up sleeping together 3 times over the course of the evening. This morning, things were super awkward. She called in sick and stayed in bed, and I left for work. We usually text or gchat during the work today, but I havenít heard anything from her. Iím sure sheís super embarrassed.

What are the chances that we will ever be good again? Any ideas on how to make it less awkward at home?
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Old 12-07-2012, 01:23 PM
 
Location: ViŮa del Mar, Chile
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I had a great living situation until about 12 hours ago. Iím a 29 year old guy and was living with an old co-worker of mine, who is a 26 year old female.

So, last night, my roommate and I went out to a DJ show with a fellow friend. Drank way too much, headed back home, and ended up sleeping together 3 times over the course of the evening. This morning, things were super awkward. She called in sick and stayed in bed, and I left for work. We usually text or gchat during the work today, but I havenít heard anything from her. Iím sure sheís super embarrassed.

What are the chances that we will ever be good again? Any ideas on how to make it less awkward at home?

Text her like nothing happened, be completely normal.

Then go home and bang her again.
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Old 12-07-2012, 01:24 PM
 
Location: Houston, Tx
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I had a great living situation until about 12 hours ago. Iím a 29 year old guy and was living with an old co-worker of mine, who is a 26 year old female.

So, last night, my roommate and I went out to a DJ show with a fellow friend. Drank way too much, headed back home, and ended up sleeping together 3 times over the course of the evening. This morning, things were super awkward. She called in sick and stayed in bed, and I left for work. We usually text or gchat during the work today, but I havenít heard anything from her. Iím sure sheís super embarrassed.

What are the chances that we will ever be good again? Any ideas on how to make it less awkward at home?
Yeah, move out.
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Old 12-07-2012, 01:29 PM
 
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I had a great living situation until about 12 hours ago. Iím a 29 year old guy and was living with an old co-worker of mine, who is a 26 year old female.

So, last night, my roommate and I went out to a DJ show with a fellow friend. Drank way too much, headed back home, and ended up sleeping together 3 times over the course of the evening. This morning, things were super awkward. She called in sick and stayed in bed, and I left for work. We usually text or gchat during the work today, but I havenít heard anything from her. Iím sure sheís super embarrassed.

What are the chances that we will ever be good again? Any ideas on how to make it less awkward at home?
If you're both single and can be cool about it: My initial thought is that this is AWESOME!

However, it seems like you are both regretting it. So I think the best way to handle it is to approach it head on and just discuss the big ole elephant in the room.

Sit her down, try to talk about it like something as kinda silly and say "Hey, I really want to talk about last night, it seems like we just got too drunk and made a mistake. <Insert your intentions moving forward>. Can we go back to things being cool/continue doing this? I really liked our living situation before this happened so I want to make sure we keep our original arrangement.

Try to be the one throwing it out there and try to lighten it up a little, maybe a little laugh about it and maybe apologize and say you're sorry for that (even though you shouldn't be sorry, just show some humility). It should make her feel better. Worst case scenario she's so weirded out by it she moves out and then you just need a new roommate.

Best of luck!
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Old 12-07-2012, 01:33 PM
 
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As long as she keeps paying the rent what's the problem?
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Old 12-07-2012, 01:33 PM
 
Location: Canada
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I don't see why people have to make things awkward the next day. A guy friend of mine and I got wasted a month ago and hooked up. I messaged him some stupid comment I knew he'd laugh at the next day, just like I would have any other time. Probably shouldn't have done it but whatever. Just message her like normal.

I wouldn't take cdubs advice and "talk about last night" there's no need. You guys both know what happened. Either it'll happen again or it won't. Time will tell. Don't apologize. You both had fun, no big deal so don't (or let her) make it into one.
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Old 12-07-2012, 01:35 PM
 
Location: Westminster, CO
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I don't see why people have to make things awkward the next day. A guy friend of mine and I got wasted a month ago and hooked up. I messaged him some stupid comment I knew he'd laugh at the next day, just like I would have any other time. Probably shouldn't have done it but whatever. Just message her like normal.

I wouldn't take cdubs advice and "talk about last night" there's no need. You guys both know what happened. Either it'll happen again or it won't. Time will tell. Don't apologize. You both had fun, no big deal so don't (or let her) make it into one.
Fantastic advice. It need not be a big deal, it will only likely be a problem if you start asking when you can do it again.
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Old 12-07-2012, 01:36 PM
 
Location: ViŮa del Mar, Chile
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I don't see why people have to make things awkward the next day. A guy friend of mine and I got wasted a month ago and hooked up. I messaged him some stupid comment I knew he'd laugh at the next day, just like I would have any other time. Probably shouldn't have done it but whatever. Just message her like normal.

I wouldn't take cdubs advice and "talk about last night" there's no need. You guys both know what happened. Either it'll happen again or it won't. Time will tell. Don't apologize. You both had fun, no big deal so don't (or let her) make it into one.

I don't see why it would take any more than this.
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Old 12-07-2012, 01:39 PM
 
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Yeah, after I showered this morning, I went into her room to look for my cell phone and she said, "We are bad" and pulled the covers over her face. My reply was, "Oh, relax, it's not a big deal" and left. So, I think I'm being pretty cool about it.

Is it weird that I was really into it? I wouldn't mind if it happened again, but I don't want to screw up our living situation... we have another 9 months left on our lease.
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Old 12-07-2012, 01:46 PM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston
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Yes, act normal like nothing happen and see how she reacts to that.

BTW: maybe she called in sick, because she wanted to spend the whole day in bed with you??
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