Girlfriend caught cheating, first time, what to do? (guy, single, advice)
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It has been over 6 months since I cheated on her, but since she forgave me and we moved on I felt like everything really worked. The love felt real, things seemed to be going really well. I understand no one is perfect, I want to believe I can forgive her and move on, and maybe it will only be this once. Any hope for saying it was a bad judgment call, an act of the moment out of pure lust and that she really values her feelings for me now?
I have been faithful to her ever since my first act...maybe she could do the same and we could both evolve and move on?
I don't know. A momentary lusty bad judgement call happens once, not three times. She didn't feel bad after the first time?
You can feel real love and have it be for the wrong person. It happens. Its not just about the emotion, youve got to look at the context it's happening in. Does this feel like how healthy long term relationships happen? Or does this feel like how guest appearances on Maury eventually happen. You make the call. LOL
Everything you are feeling for her you can eventually feel for someone who won't sex your friends. I'm just saying.
I agree, right now it's 1 to 1. OP why don't you go visit her or make arrangements for her to come visit you. Especially if she comes to visit you, give her another chance. Lose that so-called friend though, he didn't own up to it and lied about it...2 offenses.
We will be seeing each other again very soon here if the plans hold on. And yeah it is 1 to 1, even now. That's why I feel like I shouldn't leave her, since she kept me and I did it first.
I believe everyone gets a second chance. But only ONE second chance.
I will just feel like such a fool if something of this sort happens again, I'll never forgive myself or her, but at that point I won't think twice either, it will be done and sealed.
We will be seeing each other again very soon here if the plans hold on. And yeah it is 1 to 1, even now. That's why I feel like I shouldn't leave her, since she kept me and I did it first.
No it is 3 to 1.....yours was random hers was with a close personal best friend.... Do you honestly think you could possibly trust her for the rest of your life? If she got away with it 3 times what makes you think she will not do it again when she gets bored or insecure in the future? Not to mention how do you feel about your friend having a nude picture of her. The odds are your friend shared.
We will be seeing each other again very soon here if the plans hold on. And yeah it is 1 to 1, even now. That's why I feel like I shouldn't leave her, since she kept me and I did it first.
Well there you have it, if that's what you feel , run with it. I was in a long distance myself 15 years ago and I found out my SO did physically go out on me. At or near the same time I moved in with an ex of mine for a few weeks (I did nothing with her though). I had to step back and view it from a practical standpoint. Any women that is attractive, fine....you can't expect them to be home knitting sweaters or daydreaming about you all day. You have to be proactive and go get what you want and there's usually going to be competition. BTW, the one I referred to earlier, I'm still with her 15 years later.
Well there you have it, if that's what you feel , run with it. I was in a long distance myself 15 years ago and I found out my SO did physically go out on me. At or near the same time I moved in with an ex of mine for a few weeks (I did nothing with her though). I had to step back and view it from a practical standpoint. Any women that is attractive, fine....you can't expect them to be home knitting sweaters or daydreaming about you all day. You have to be proactive and go get what you want and there's usually going to be competition. BTW, the one I referred to earlier, I'm still with her 15 years later.
That's a good and uplifting story, over 15 years together now.
Sure, I can't expect them to be home knitting sweaters or thinking of me all day, but if she doesn't have the nerve to come to me she is feeling insecure or inadequate...I just don't know. =/
Only desperate people with no options stay with cheaters
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