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I'm new to the forum and I have a lot of thoughts that I want to get out. There is a distinct difference between someone being a part of your Life and someone being your Life. When someone is a part of your life; you are able to balance your individual live while balancing your own life. When someone is your life, you've decided to neglect your individual Life and carjack someone's.
When you lost your identity in a relationship (You lose who you are) every choice, decision, thought, and action is geared towards your significant other. You live your life for your significant other and that is completely unhealthy. Some people believe that giving all of who they are is right. It is right; however, you’re not supposed to lose yourself in the process. People can still give all of who they are by opening up every aspect of their lives and allowing another individual to share the different aspects of his or her lives.
Someone Is A Part of Your Life
-Individuals share their individual Lives
-Individual Identity is Present
-Happiness is within and is shared mutually
-Sharing
Someone Being Your Life
-An individual is your Life
-No identity; you lost who you were or "Lost yourself" in the relationship
-The illusion that the other individual can only make you happy
-Needing
I've observed that some people go into a relationship with a "Need" mindset and "Sharing" expectations. These are opposites. Which may be one reason why some struggle in relationships.
According to Webster’s Dictionary, a “Need” is defined by a physiological or psychological requirement for the well being of an organism. When I hear women say “I need a man/bf/husband in my life to make me happy, feel special, etc”; they must actually need men to feel whole right? So by them stating that requirement, they are really saying that the essence of their life is and will be in the hands of the man whom she depends on for that necessity?
Think about it like this. In order to exist, I need myself because without me, I am nothing; I do not exist. So for someone to think he or she “Needs” someone is to say he or she is nothing; they do not exist-without having someone in their lives to complete that “Need”. So I ask you...what do you need from a man or woman?
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