How many good relationships are you aware of?

[cindersslipper]

Originally Posted by monemi

You and others seriously don't have examples of happy marriages? What in the hell is happening where you live? Yeah, marriage can be tough but if it were that hard, what would be the point? From where I sit, 3/4's are happy. Those that aren't, get a divorce.

I have one, a great aunt and uncle who adored each other - both have been deceased for years now but I did witness it.

They ruined me for life lol.

What in hell is happening where I live? Folks largely don't marry in the first place.

Most split up sooner or later.

May I point out that you have been happily married for x years only (I had 5) and you may well be singing a different tune 20 years and two husbands from now.

Grey divorce is escalating at a massive rate which pretty much puts the "happy marriage" carp to bed.

Our lifestyle these days is largely to blame, not necessarily our morality or failings.

Where I live, 5 years happy marriage and 2 beautiful children is considered a "success".

[monemi]

Originally Posted by cindersslipper

I have one, a great aunt and uncle who adored each other - both have been deceased for years now but I did witness it.

They ruined me for life lol.

What in hell is happening where I live? Folks largely don't marry in the first place.

Most split up sooner or later.

May I point out that you have been happily married for x years only (I had 5) and you may well be singing a different tune 20 years and two husbands from now.

Grey divorce is escalating at a massive rate which pretty much puts the "happy marriage" carp to bed.

Our lifestyle these days is largely to blame, not necessarily our morality or failings.

Where I live, 5 years happy marriage and 2 beautiful children is considered a "success".

Statistically, most people don't divorce. With your perspective, why are you dating? We've been married ten years and I'll worry about 20 years when I get there. If I took your view, I wouldn't bother getting married in the first place and live out my life single. There wouldn't be any point.

[TaoistDude]

I don't know of many. My own is great, and very few of my relatives, a few neighbors over a lifetime, and a few friends (a small percentage) have - or had - really good relationships, IMO. Many have ongoing troubled or dysfunctional relationships that do not seem happy, and many have divorced or broken up, with very, very few ever finding a good relationship when trying again.