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Women say damn near every form of approaching them is a terrible idea
Don't approach her at work - you could get fired
Don't approach her where she works - she's just trying to earn money and doesn't care about you
Don't approach her at the gym - she's just trying to work out
Don't approach her at the bar/club - she's just there to have fun with her friends
Don't approach her on the street - it's creepy
Don't approach her at every other location imaginable because of X, Y and Z reasons
So what's going on here? Do 99.99% of people just find their partner through their small social circle? Are you doomed to be alone if you don't have any friends who know single girls?
I don't mean to sound bitter in the slightest bit, just curious what one is supposed to do
Just approach them whenever/where ever you feel like it.
If they aren't interested, they are usually good at letting you know directly or indirectly.
Most rules are meant to be bent or broken.
Just mentally prepare yourself for some potential harsh rejection, especially if you don't do it right, or if you don't have the right 'look', depending on what part of the country you are in.
I've met and dated women at work, at her work, at school, at the dojo, at a club, at social events, in my social circle, and online - just not on the street. I never actually try to "pick them up" - just engage in friendly conversation and wait to see if she gives off any signals worth pursuing.
Women say damn near every form of approaching them is a terrible idea
Don't approach her at work - you could get fired
Don't approach her where she works - she's just trying to earn money and doesn't care about you
Don't approach her at the gym - she's just trying to work out
Don't approach her at the bar/club - she's just there to have fun with her friends
Don't approach her on the street - it's creepy
Don't approach her at every other location imaginable because of X, Y and Z reasons
So what's going on here? Do 99.99% of people just find their partner through their small social circle? Are you doomed to be alone if you don't have any friends who know single girls?
I don't mean to sound bitter in the slightest bit, just curious what one is supposed to do
Try online dating.... it would be the only venue where you can be sure the woman is looking for a date.
Women say damn near every form of approaching them is a terrible idea.
Funny, I've known many hundreds of women in my life and I have never once heard any of them say anything remotely like this. Once a friend of mind was propositioned when she was just coming out of a restroom, she did think that was tacky. But making a pass in a public bathroom is an extreme example. Many years ago I knew a GF who had a pass made at her when she was at her sister's funeral. That was also simply w-r-o-n-g. But these are extremely rare instances.
I sense that women may not want you to approach them and they've given off this vibe so you're frustrated and bitter. Otherwise your thesis makes no sense because it's such plain ridiculous. There are few bad places or bad times to approach a single, available woman. Just make sure it's not in a restroom or a funeral and you should be fine.
I don't think that's the problem. I think that when you look for problems - you find them.
Exactly. OP's biggest problem is making excuses and assuming that every woman he comes across has a reason that she wouldn't go out with him (without actually asking her.)
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