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In my circle of friends we tend to pay for eachother. It all circles around eventually. They get the drinks or apps at night, I bring coffee and bagels in the morning...etc.
Generally, we all pay for ourselves, male and female, unless one of us decides to treat the other(s). I often get my snacks paid for when it's just me and the guys out at the bar because I don't really drink, not because I'm female. Their bar tabs are usually far more than the appetizer and iced tea I ordered, and I'm available to drive them home if necessary. Of course, now that I live across the country, when I go home everybody's buying me dinner/drinks/lunch/whatever and yells at me if I try to pay.
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Originally Posted by BeatsEnvy
Does it mean anything?
On rare occasions, i'll do things like cover the tip or pay for a drink for my female friends. This weekend it meant a free ride home from DC which allowed me to avoid a hassle getting home (WMATA SUCKS!) (the girl wasn't drunk. )
I have only 2 female friends that I see maybe once a year. I paid for one once or twice. One is married and another was a coworker. No intentions behind it, I do the same for my male friends that I see very often, Occasionally might grab the check.
Guy friends pay for me a lot. I'm not sure why, but I presume it's a manly thing they think they need to do. I prefer to pay my own way with friends or there's that question that lingers (much like the OP).
Like others said, it usually comes back around to them.
The reason behind this question is that I went to the movies with a friend who I sort of have a crush on, I was the one who asked if he wanted to see the movie, and he paid. I'm not delusional, I know that it probably doesn't mean anything at all...but I figured that I would hear some opinions anyways Thanks everyone!
When I was a young adult, considering where I grew up, I was making pretty good money for my age. Especially compared to some of my friends. Because of this, I would pay for the occasional drink or meal regardless of gender. And many people would try to take advantage of this.
But, I think it depends on what kind of 'friend' are we talking about? The concept for friend has changed quite a bit for me since my early 20's. .
Would I pay for a 'friend' that was always looking for handouts or was the last to reach for the bill ? No, but if someone was a genuine friend, I didn't mind paying from time to time. But, usually, my genuine friends would pay another time, and we would be square. But if you were genuine, AND broke, I would pay from time to time without any expectation for repayment.
Oh, and one of my tests to determine if you are 'cool'....
Depending on the situation, if we don't know each other very well, if I buy you a drink, and you don't buy me a drink soon after, I will mentally note that. You immediately lose A LOT of cool points. could be 50, donno. But a lot.
I didn't say you couldn't afford to pay for yourself. All I said was...people should pay for themselves especially if it's friends. The thread is asking about male friends paying for women. A woman friend should pay her own way and the same with the male friend. That's all, that's it.
Why the heck do you care if people want to pay for their friends or vice versa???
There is no right or wrong if both parties are happy with the arrangement...
Human relationships aren't business transactions. I've enjoyed someone's company and picked up the tab and my friends have enjoyed my company and picked up the tab.
Why the heck do you care if people want to pay for their friends or vice versa???
There is no right or wrong if both parties are happy with the arrangement...
Human relationships aren't business transactions. I've enjoyed someone's company and picked up the tab and my friends have enjoyed my company and picked up the tab.
I said it numerous times -- I don't care what other people are doing. If you bothered to read before posting, you would've come across that.
I answered the question for the sake of the thread which is what YOU were supposed to do otherwise, no, I don't care.
Not everyone is going to want others to pay their way for things nor see the point of doing so, especially if it's just friends. Apparently I'm not the only one in the thread with this opinion. Beauty of choice. Go somewhere and deal with that.
good for you and your friends, I didn't ask what all you do with them. I don't give a sh*t.
Last edited by Doll Eyes; 12-17-2012 at 07:16 PM..
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Just being a friend.
Thanks everyone!
