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He never missed an opportunity to remind me that I was not his dream girl, and never would be.
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I was reminded all day, every day, that his life was ruined because he never had his "virgin dream girl" that the universe owed to him, and that he would never be happy for that reason.
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Being reminded of your failings constantly is really hard on one's psyche.
I couldn't agree more. It will be a long while until I'm recovered enough from this relationship to venture into another one. At this point, I'm just focusing on me, building myself back up, and doing my own thing.
I couldn't agree more. It will be a long while until I'm recovered enough from this relationship to venture into another one. At this point, I'm just focusing on me, building myself back up, and doing my own thing.
Perfect.
A rare thread on this forum that has the potential end well
To me your relationship sounds like it was emotionally/mentally abusive.
As bad as any relationship has been that I have been in, I never said anything to the effect of "You failed me..." or "you are not my dream girl".
You are better off without that relationship, as is anyone who is treated like that.
Sleep well knowing you did the right thing, and NEVER give in to his request to get back together.
Honestly, you are probably best off if you never reply/answer him ever again.
To me your relationship sounds like it was emotionally/mentally abusive.
As bad as any relationship has been that I have been in, I never said anything to the effect of "You failed me..." or "you are not my dream girl".
You are better off without that relationship, as is anyone who is treated like that.
Sleep well knowing you did the right thing, and NEVER give in to his request to get back together.
Honestly, you are probably best off if you never reply/answer him ever again.
Thank you so much. I will unfortunately be forced to have some interaction with him, as we live(d) together, but I'm hoping to have everything out and be able to sever ties completely by the end of the week (or by Christmas at the very latest, as I'll have family in town to help with the move).
Well, as the title implies, I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years last night. Our relationship has been doomed for quite some time now, we were just delaying the inevitable, but the timing does really suck. But I cannot put into words how incredibly thankful and overjoyed I am at finally taking this step and breaking free.
Unfortunately, as much as I love him, and I do really love him, it just wasn't meant to be. We are just too different. He never missed an opportunity to remind me that I was not his dream girl, and never would be. I was reminded all day, every day, that his life was ruined because he never had his "virgin dream girl" that the universe owed to him, and that he would never be happy for that reason. His dream girl was the opposite of me-a blonde haired, blue eyed, beer-drinking, vegetarian, virgin, nymphomanic (I am a brown haired, green eyes, only occasional drinker and NEVER beer, omnivore, non-virgin, and non-nymphomanic, although I do think I have a fairly health sex drive). Being reminded of your failings constantly is really hard on one's psyche. On the one hand, I'm glad that it's over, because the last 2 years have been pretty terrible. But on the other hand, I find it really sad that we couldn't make it work, because I really, truly love(d) him, and have never IN MY LIFE, worked so hard to make a relationship work, and because being with him is something that I'd wanted since we were in high school (we're both 28 now).
I'm not entirely sure what the point of this thread is other than a little bit of venting, and maybe just to say that it's a shame people don't appreciate what they have in their lives a little more, rather than focusing on what they wanted but didn't get. That's a surefire way to lose a really good thing.
Congratulations on your escape. So 2 years of your 2 and 1/2 years have been like this. I would ask you why but so many people are in your situation, and are in denial of it, or think their BF/GF will change (Not likely) that I already know the answer. Better luck on the next one. This time you will know when to Bolt when he starts exhibiting bad behavior: "Don't be afraid to run from someone that you are incompatible with"
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