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If you had a sneaking suspicion your long term bf was buying a ring for Christmas and planning on proposing on Christmas in front of your family and his, would you stop it (if you weren't wanting to get engaged)? Would you try to stop it before anything was purchased? How would you go about doing this?
Is Mr. OCD acting like he's gonna pop the question?
I'd bring up the subject in the form of a relationship discussion - you know, a chat to make sure you're still on the same page. Don't be all "Dammit, are you buying a ring?"
Just remember that doesn't mean he won't do what he wants to do. I had 2 men propose to me after I'd explicitly stated that I was not interested. I think there's a little glimmer of hope in men that think women don't really mean it when they say that don't want to get married.
If you had a sneaking suspicion your long term bf was buying a ring for Christmas and planning on proposing on Christmas in front of your family and his, would you stop it (if you weren't wanting to get engaged)? Would you try to stop it before anything was purchased? How would you go about doing this?
The father of my wife's daughter proposed at Christmas in front of family after she told him not to do so.
That didn't go over very well.
I proposed in front of a crowd, during the holidays but not on Christmas, and while I was terrified (even though I knew the chances of her saying "no" were slim) it went very well.
Just remember that doesn't mean he won't do what he wants to do. I had 2 men propose to me after I'd explicitly stated that I was not interested. I think there's a little glimmer of hope in men that think women don't really mean it when they say that don't want to get married.
I would recommend having a 'where is this relationship going?' conversation. Make it clear, that although one day you plan on being married, now is definitely not the time for an engagement. And if you can, give a valid reason why. For instance, if you have not been together long, specifically say in order for you to accept/consider a proposal, you would have required x amount of time invested in the relationship.
Although this convo may scare/hurt him, him proposing in front of the family and being rejected will hurt more, (as will you accepting the proposal, but breaking it off before the wedding).
This will be a difficult convo, but you will want to have it before he puts you on the spot to accept a proposal in front of family
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