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Old 12-21-2012, 05:12 PM
 
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So he called to confirm a date, then texted a couple of times, and you did not reply at all?

No wonder he dumped you. He assumed, based on your complete lack of response that you were going to stand him up.

You can avoid this in the future by having he common decency to respond. How about a text that says:

Really busy at work right now. Looking forward to seeing you Tuesday at 8pm.

Takes about 15 seconds.

 
Old 12-21-2012, 05:19 PM
 
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Maybe you need to put dating on hold until you actually have time to return a phone call or a text. How can you even find the time to go out with this guy if you can't find a few minutes to communicate with him?

How busy are you that you can't take 30 seconds out of your day to do that?

I don't think he's being unreasonable (unless this all happened in the course of one day).
 
Old 12-21-2012, 05:20 PM
 
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If someone I'm dating "forgot" to return my call, I would dump her and forget about her immediately. It shows you have no respect for that person and his time. That's how I would think.
 
Old 12-21-2012, 05:21 PM
 
Location: OC/LA, California
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He called twice on Tuesday. I was at work saving lives not sitting infront of my computer killing time. He sent a text on Wednesday afternoon, pretty much saying that he has moved on.
It happened before with different guys. They just dumped me because I'm to busy to go out with them. I have friends I hang out with on weekends and family I see every Sunday. If I'm free I go out on dates but there are times I want time on my own too and do my own thing.
 
Old 12-21-2012, 05:28 PM
 
Location: Aventura FL
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He called twice on Tuesday. I was at work saving lives not sitting infront of my computer killing time. He sent a text on Wednesday afternoon, pretty much saying that he has moved on.
It happened before with different guys. They just dumped me because I'm to busy to go out with them. I have friends I hang out with on weekends and family I see every Sunday. If I'm free I go out on dates but there are times I want time on my own too and do my own thing.
Don't worry about it YellowT. It sounds like you have a very important job (paramedic maybe?). If he can't give you the benefit of the doubt and some patience, why bother? When you're just "dating" you're not at the stage where you somehow owe that person all your time.
 
Old 12-21-2012, 05:31 PM
 
Location: OC/LA, California
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I worked Tuesday afternoon till Wednesday morning. I got home so tired and forgot to call him. I woke up Wednesday afternoon seeing a text that I got dumped. What did I do wrong?
 
Old 12-21-2012, 05:33 PM
 
Location: Westminster, CO
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He called twice on Tuesday. I was at work saving lives not sitting infront of my computer killing time. He sent a text on Wednesday afternoon, pretty much saying that he has moved on.
It happened before with different guys. They just dumped me because I'm to busy to go out with them. I have friends I hang out with on weekends and family I see every Sunday. If I'm free I go out on dates but there are times I want time on my own too and do my own thing.
Sounds like you are too busy to be worrying about getting into a relationship.

I think that the 24 hours was a bit short of time for bail, but it sounds to me like you had already decided to get together and he was trying to firm up plans. If that's the case I would have been annoyed also.
 
Old 12-21-2012, 05:35 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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I worked Tuesday afternoon till Wednesday morning. I got home so tired and forgot to call him. I woke up Wednesday afternoon seeing a text that I got dumped. What did I do wrong?

How long have you been dating/whatever? We need more background info.
 
Old 12-21-2012, 05:35 PM
 
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Honestly - it takes SECONDS to send a text message.

I AM SO FARKIN TIRED of girls pretending like they have no time to respond to guys or talk to them. In less time than it takes to pee, you can respond to a guy. Stop pretending you're so busy.. maybe if you didn't waste time gossiping in the hallways you could respond?

I work three jobs.. and guess what, I can find 15 seconds in my day to write a three line text.. get over yourself and youll stop losing guys.

You are saving lives, great. I have friends who work in the ER too and guess what, they respond all the time!!
 
Old 12-21-2012, 05:52 PM
 
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You are saving lives, great. I have friends who work in the ER too and guess what, they respond all the time!!
I'm not saying you're wrong, but to be fair, my mother (nurse) isn't allowed to have her phone on herself unless it's during her lunch break.

My boyfriend works surgery, and same deal. He also has a buddy who works in the ER and can't. My boyfriend only responds to his texts during lunch hour.

OP, I'd say it's a bit silly of him to bail so quickly, but it sounds as if your relationship was still hardly a relationship, judging by the fact that he "dumped" you via text. Move on.
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