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Old 12-24-2012, 12:19 PM
 
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I dont see anything wrong with that. I enjoy when females do that. It makes me more interested and they seem a lot more friendly and loving. I dont think there is anything wrong with women being kind to me, so I appreciate it.
So, you would rather have someone pander than to engage in an actual give-and-take with you?
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Old 12-24-2012, 12:19 PM
 
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A lot of women hate know-it-alls. It's not just about being smart, it's about a give-and-take, showing interest in the other person, not monopolizing the conversation, being secure enough in yourself that you don't feel the need to constantly impress your date. It sounds like your friend doesn't get this concept at all. Huge turn-off.
No ... he's actually pretty modest.

That's just his personality. He's just geeky and has esoteric interests. I don't know how you got that he was arrogant from what I wrote whatsoever.

If he were, he'd probably do better with women.
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Old 12-24-2012, 12:20 PM
 
Location: Australia
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A lot of women hate know-it-alls. It's not just about being smart, it's about a give-and-take, showing interest in the other person, not monopolizing the conversation, being secure enough in yourself that you don't feel the need to constantly impress your date. It sounds like your friend doesn't get this concept at all. Huge turn-off.
A lot of people hate know-it-alls.

I hate know it alls. Especially when I happen to know for a fact they are wrong.

I disagreed with an expert once in a highly specialised field. They dismissed what I said quite rudely as very clever people tend to do. Anyway it turns out that I was right and they were wrong, and they never ever acknowledged it so what's the point?

I usually just let them rave on and just sit there and think "what a dick" in my head.

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Old 12-24-2012, 12:22 PM
 
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I dont see anything wrong with that. I enjoy when females do that. It makes me more interested and they seem a lot more friendly and loving. I dont think there is anything wrong with women being kind to me, so I appreciate it.
A woman pretending to be less knowledgeable than she is, and even dumb, is being kind?
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Old 12-24-2012, 12:24 PM
 
Location: Australia
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A woman pretending to be less knowledgeable than she is, and even dumb, is being kind?
I think my motivation as a very young child to dumb it down, was essentially kindness. I've seen my kids do it with others, too.

I didn't want to make the other kids look dumber than me and I had no ego at 4 or 5.
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Old 12-24-2012, 12:24 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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No ... he's actually pretty modest.

That's just his personality. He's just geeky and has esoteric interests. I don't know how you got that he was arrogant from what I wrote whatsoever.

If he were, he'd probably do better with women.
OK, good to have clarification. It was hard to tell from your post. There are a lot of guys who fit your description, who do over-do it.
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Old 12-24-2012, 12:26 PM
 
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Big difference between a know it all and an intelligent person. There are very few men who want to be with a dumb woman.

I think the education argument is just a cover-up for deeper issues. Maybe the guy is just not into you. Could be looks...personality...or other factors. But I doubt it has anything to do with not wanting to be with an educated person.
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Old 12-24-2012, 12:33 PM
 
Location: International Spacestation
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So, you would rather have someone pander than to engage in an actual give-and-take with you?
What do you mean exactly? I have deep discussions with my brothers, my dad and male friends. I dont enjoy those sort of conversations with women. Its always best to clam up & listen when that sort of women is around. Thats just me though. I think life is short and people should do what makes them happy and avoid things that make them irritated. Peace is good IMO.
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Old 12-24-2012, 12:33 PM
 
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I think my motivation as a very young child to dumb it down, was essentially kindness. I've seen my kids do it with others, too.

I didn't want to make the other kids look dumber than me and I had no ego at 4 or 5.
I can see doing that in general, sure, but not with a mate or potential mate.
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Old 12-24-2012, 12:34 PM
 
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What do you mean exactly? I have deep discussions with my brothers, my dad and male friends. I dont enjoy those sort of conversations with women. Its always best to clam up & listen when that sort of women is around. Thats just me though. I think life is short and people should do what makes them happy and avoid things that make them irritated. Peace is good IMO.
I mean having a conversation. Are you saying that you don't engage in actual conversation with women?
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