What would you do if you encountered (family, friend, mature)
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someone from the past you didn't expect to see again? That's is what happened to me. It's someone I wasn't nice way back in my teen years.
About 6 months ago, on one of the reunions I saw Martha again (she's good friend with my fiance's cousin). Though now we're both 25, she doesn't exactly have good memories of me nor of my former friends. I won't go into details of what we did but it was enough for her to go to another school by 12th grade. I know this because during that year, several people told me she left and it was mainly me who was the cause.
When I saw her again that day, I seriously wanted to faint. I was at lost and didn't know what to do. So I just greeted Martha as if I were seeing her for the first time after a long while (pretended not to know her very well) and just started talking. Ever since then I've been inviting her to hang-outs and spa trips with my friends (no, not the ones I used to be friends with but new friends).
Already feeling awful that I don't feel like talking about it nor want to get reminded. So sure if I'm doing right in trying to make things right without saying sorry (my way of starting all over again).
Well at the very least I'm inviting her sometimes with my friends. That's doing something instead of nothing.
Needless to say I didn't expect to run into her again. I didn't want to run into anything that reminds of me how I was then. I guess moving on didn't work. I had to see her again and now she's gonna be part of the family.
If you have truly reformed you would feel the need to make an apology. Sounds to me you are still the coward you were in high school.
Not a coward but how would you feel if you're trying to forget something you did? Something you've felt terrible for a long time and just want to forget it and start fresh..that you simply don't want to talk about it.
Please apologize to her and clear the air. She will definitely feel better about herself, and you won't be worrying the rest of your life that someone will remember or bring it up at the wrong time. Painful memories from childhood/growing up NEVER leave us, but an acknowledgement and apology from one who caused any of the bad times can make one's emotional load a lot lighter. Plus, you will be a big person for doing so, and I, as well as others who agree with me, will be proud of you. Let us know what you do.
Not a coward but how would you feel if you're trying to forget something you did? Something you've felt terrible for a long time and just want to forget it and start fresh..that you simply don't want to talk about it.
I think you should apologize.
Even if she doesn't care about it anymore, she'll appreciate the fact that you cared enough to bring it up. Best case scenario, you make her feel VERY good about things. Worst case scenario, it's not a big deal anymore and you both just laugh it off.
Not a coward but how would you feel if you're trying to forget something you did? Something you've felt terrible for a long time and just want to forget it and start fresh..that you simply don't want to talk about it.
Cuz this ain't about your feelings. It's about hers.
Not understanding that shows you are still immature and not grounded...the same person who bullies.
When I'm wrong, and it's a lot, I never just try to brush it under the rug.
If you truly feel sorry you'll realize that only a sincere apology will restore the respect and dignity you owe her and what you denied in the first place.
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