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Old 12-26-2012, 04:13 PM
 
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Do you or your friends have break-up texts or talks post break up?

A friend of mine has a pattern. He dates a woman for a while, they become exclusive, the relationship is probably mostly based on the physical aspect (I could he wrong here, as I very seldom meet the gf) , because most of his relationships go down in flames. Hard.
This pattern happens around the 2-3 month mark.

To the subject: He and his gf just broke up. And for the past week or less, they have been texting back and forth a little here and there. Basically the texts are about "why did you leave?" so on and so forth.
Sometimes it is phone conversations also, but not in this particular case.
This is a pattern that my friend has been through with many of his ex's.
He has a HUGE ego, and he usually dates women with large egos as well. So I don't know if it turns into an ego battle, but it amazes me how often these post texts/talks occur with him and ex's.
IME, anytime my previous relationship ends, there is the break up convo, and we each go our seperate ways, more than likely to not speak again/reach out for many many years, if ever. And there definatley isn't texting/talking immediately after the split.
thoughts? comments ? Is this more common then I realize ?
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Old 12-26-2012, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Do you or your friends have break-up texts or talks post break up?

A friend of mine has a pattern. He dates a woman for a while, they become exclusive, the relationship is probably mostly based on the physical aspect (I could he wrong here, as I very seldom meet the gf) , because most of his relationships go down in flames. Hard.
This pattern happens around the 2-3 month mark.

To the subject: He and his gf just broke up. And for the past week or less, they have been texting back and forth a little here and there. Basically the texts are about "why did you leave?" so on and so forth.
Sometimes it is phone conversations also, but not in this particular case.
This is a pattern that my friend has been through with many of his ex's.
He has a HUGE ego, and he usually dates women with large egos as well. So I don't know if it turns into an ego battle, but it amazes me how often these post texts/talks occur with him and ex's.
IME, anytime my previous relationship ends, there is the break up convo, and we each go our seperate ways, more than likely to not speak again/reach out for many many years, if ever. And there definatley isn't texting/talking immediately after the split.
thoughts? comments ? Is this more common then I realize ?
I still have contact with most of the women that I dated seriously

I have contact with some of the women that I dated casually.
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Old 12-26-2012, 04:21 PM
 
Location: North of 60
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I still talk to my ex all the time. I went to a football game with him last month. No big deal, I'd rather maintain a friendship than be overcome by bitterness. But then again, we dated for 3 years not 2-3 months.
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Old 12-26-2012, 04:27 PM
 
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I've had this happen a couple of times. I tend to stay friendly with the people I date, so we're going to talk and, inevitably, there's the "why couldn't we make it/what happened to us" conversation. It's always hard, but I think it's part of the learning process for me.
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