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Old 12-30-2012, 01:16 AM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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Lol! Well played, but FYI I went ahead and googled "Placebo Effect in Dating" and I found this. the placebo effect of dating | Stephanie Klein Greek Tragedy



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LOL! That is really interesting.
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Old 12-30-2012, 05:13 AM
 
Location: Bronx
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In what world do you live in?

Mars.
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Old 12-30-2012, 06:36 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Okay, here goes.....I'm 45 and I've been told that I am very attractive by many people. If I were looking for a man, I would be looking for a man that I find attractive to ME. He doesn't have to be attractive to anyone else, just me. So if he is a 5, so be it. The problem with average looking men is that sometimes they ACT like average looking men, not realizing their potential. Act like a 10 and I'll see you as a 10. To me, it's all about personality. Really. I tend to go for the average looking guys anyway because I know they will spend more time on me emotionally than on themselves (I'd rather have a guy spend time with me having dinner than at the gym - I don't need a trophy). So have no fear average looking guys, there are plenty of women out there for you! Lift your head high and act like a 10 and let your awesome personality shine.
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Old 12-30-2012, 07:03 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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Ok time for some reciprocity. Discuss.
No, he doesn't. But that isn't always such a terrible thing.

Frankly, a lot of "hot" people, male and female, have an overblown sense of entitlement. Many also have an unjustified sense of superiority. Many attractive people have awful personalities. They have been spoiled and fawned over by others for much of their lives, and it shows. This is not true of everyone, of course. But it is quite common.

A man who cannot realistically compete for the "hottest" women may end up dodging a lot of bullets, whether he realizes it or not. He may have to forgo the "hotties" and instead settle for women who are smart, funny, charming, kind and compassionate instead. Not a bad fate, if you ask me...
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Old 12-30-2012, 12:19 PM
 
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Ok time for some reciprocity. Discuss.
I have no idea.. how does one judge?
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Old 12-30-2012, 12:43 PM
 
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Okay, here goes.....I'm 45 and I've been told that I am very attractive by many people. If I were looking for a man, I would be looking for a man that I find attractive to ME. He doesn't have to be attractive to anyone else, just me. So if he is a 5, so be it. The problem with average looking men is that sometimes they ACT like average looking men, not realizing their potential. Act like a 10 and I'll see you as a 10. To me, it's all about personality. Really. I tend to go for the average looking guys anyway because I know they will spend more time on me emotionally than on themselves (I'd rather have a guy spend time with me having dinner than at the gym - I don't need a trophy). So have no fear average looking guys, there are plenty of women out there for you! Lift your head high and act like a 10 and let your awesome personality shine.
Most 20 somethings don't have the wise mentality that you do as a 45 year old woman.

Your advice on personality & confidence is definitely spot on.

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Old 12-30-2012, 12:49 PM
 
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The placebo implies some kind of "empty" pill, so I'm not following.

I'll put it this way:
The 9 who makes $80K a year trumps the 7 who makes $120K a year, assuming everything else was held constant, including personalities that were both acceptable to the "shopper."
You make an excellent point her when talking looks and income. How many attractive women have we all came into contact with in our lives that makes very little money, but is living a life of luxury. When you are attractive your looks really do pay off. We had this REALLY attractive woman come and work in our department about 18 months ago. She was absolutely beautiful, but dumb as a rock. You would not believe how all of us looked over how dumb she was while she was in our department. We didn't even analyze the situation until she left.

I can absolutely admit that I think a person who is attractive has an edge out the gate. Everything in life works much like a business. If you want your business to prosper and make money, than you have to live your life that way. If you want to be poor and bankrupt, then you will live a life of poor decisions.
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Old 12-30-2012, 01:13 PM
 
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I'm going off of what I've seen. The only exceptions were people who became doctors and dentists, because their income spread is quite a bit higher then what I described.
Dentists are holding it down?
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Old 12-30-2012, 01:27 PM
 
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Ok time for some reciprocity. Discuss.
I don't even see how this can be a question.

And ... I'm speaking from a rational, clear mind, and not categorizing myself as an average man.

No. And it's not even close.
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