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Old 12-29-2012, 10:01 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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Why are kids a deal-breaker for you? I notice this more with men who won't date single mothers, although it can happen with women not dating single dads as well. Is it because the kids themselves drive you nuts and you don't like having them around? Or is it for financial reasons, because you fear that your significant other would guilt you into helping financially support a kid who is not yours? Or is there some other reason i have not thought of?
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Old 12-29-2012, 10:09 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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For me, I'm simply not at the stage in my life where I feel I want the stability of a child, either my own or someone else's. I want to be able to pick up and move at a moments notice, or go on a long vacation or even drive for a few hours to a bed and breakfast without needing to find a babysitter.

I have absolutely nothing against single parents, and if I were more settled and didn't have this weird drive to wander around I'd be more than happy to date someone with a kid.
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Old 12-29-2012, 10:11 PM
 
Location: North of 60
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I don't really like kids that much, to be brutally honest. They're fine in doses but to have one there all the time isn't cool with me at this juncture in my life.
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Old 12-29-2012, 10:12 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Its like the Coyote running into the wall.
"Meep Meep"
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Old 12-29-2012, 10:14 PM
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Where there is a single parent, there is often an ex who will be involved for the REST OF THE KID'S LIFE. It is difficult enough at times just being the second spouse with no kids involved.
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Old 12-29-2012, 10:15 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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Its like the Coyote running into the wall.
"Meep Meep"
Haha you are going to have to elaborate on that analogy.

On another note, that's when i'll start having success with women... the day the coyote catches the road runner.
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Old 12-29-2012, 10:16 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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Where there is a single parent, there is often an ex who will be involved for the REST OF THE KID'S LIFE. It is difficult enough at times just being the second spouse with no kids involved.

Hmm that's a good point, i never thought of that.
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Old 12-29-2012, 10:16 PM
 
Location: Columbia, California
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Why are kids a deal-breaker for you? I notice this more with men who won't date single mothers, although it can happen with women not dating single dads as well. Is it because the kids themselves drive you nuts and you don't like having them around? Or is it for financial reasons, because you fear that your significant other would guilt you into helping financially support a kid who is not yours? Or is there some other reason i have not thought of?
The biggest reason I can think of is that the single adult dating a singe parent will NEVER be number one in their life,

In EVERY single case of a single parent their children is their single priority. There is nothing wrong in this, in fact it is biologically correct. However it is a barrier only the desperate will lose in.
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Old 12-29-2012, 10:22 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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I don't really like kids that much, to be brutally honest. They're fine in doses but to have one there all the time isn't cool with me at this juncture in my life.
To be honest, i agree with you. Kids are cute and all, but i'd much prefer a low-stress lifestyle. I like to see my niece when she comes to visit, but there's no way i'd want to be around kids 24/7. I like giving my niece back to her parents at the end of the day!

I much prefer a low-stress lifestyle. Coming home to a QUIET house at the end of a hard day's work, relaxing with a nice girl and a glass of wine. That's more my style.
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Old 12-29-2012, 10:23 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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The biggest reason I can think of is that the single adult dating a singe parent will NEVER be number one in their life,

In EVERY single case of a single parent their children is their single priority. There is nothing wrong in this, in fact it is biologically correct. However it is a barrier only the desperate will lose in.
Hmm, that's a good point too I didn't really think of that one either.
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