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Old 12-30-2012, 12:34 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Love? Companionship? Deep human connection? Is your friend familiar with those concepts?
None of those things are unique to marriage
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Old 12-30-2012, 12:37 PM
 
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That fits the description that many like to apply to George Clooney. As well as woman who don't want to get married or have children. "Confirmed bachelorette".
OUCH.

If anyone can afford to say good-bye and do the ranch thing in Montana or Colorado, with a wife, and pop out a few kids, it's George. Others celebs with a fraction of his fame and money have successfully done that. I have seen very little of his stuff, was not impressed by his acting, and his interviews seem very scripted. I don't know what to think, except that he laughs all the way to the bank.
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Old 12-30-2012, 12:56 PM
 
Location: Too far from home.
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Love? Companionship? Deep human connection? Is your friend familiar with those concepts?
Why can't someone have all that and not be married? People can have that without having to live with someone 24/7.
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Old 12-30-2012, 01:13 PM
 
Location: Too far from home.
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OUCH.

If anyone can afford to say good-bye and do the ranch thing in Montana or Colorado, with a wife, and pop out a few kids, it's George. Others celebs with a fraction of his fame and money have successfully done that. I have seen very little of his stuff, was not impressed by his acting, and his interviews seem very scripted. I don't know what to think, except that he laughs all the way to the bank.
Clooney was married to Talia Balsam (from Mad Men). Maybe he knew it was a mistake to begin with or maybe it was a bad experience? For some people marriage is just something they don't want to do, for whatever their reason(s). It's the same as for people or couples that don't want children. I think it is wise when someone is smart enough to recognize that they are not marriage material or parent material. I don't see those decisions as being selfish, but practical. Why go against what you truly know is best for you - and best for others - only for it to eventually end and bring another person or child(ren) into something that was not meant to be?

What works for some doesn't work for others.
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Old 12-30-2012, 01:38 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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None of those things are unique to marriage
No. But your friend's chances of getting that might be better if he were open to marriage. From the OP, we don't know what the friend's feelings are about marriage at this stage of his life.
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Old 12-30-2012, 01:45 PM
 
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A family friend married a guy like this. He is an amazing guy and they are happy. He had a successful career and met the family friend around 50. She was widowed (no kids). I have seen many men change in their 40's and 50's and realize they want to be married and settled in married life. Can he get much younger? I suppose it depends but most men who are 50 can't date much younger unless they are very successful and good looking.
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Old 12-30-2012, 02:23 PM
 
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Clooney was married to Talia Balsam (from Mad Men). Maybe he knew it was a mistake to begin with or maybe it was a bad experience? For some people marriage is just something they don't want to do, for whatever their reason(s). It's the same as for people or couples that don't want children. I think it is wise when someone is smart enough to recognize that they are not marriage material or parent material. I don't see those decisions as being selfish, but practical. Why go against what you truly know is best for you - and best for others - only for it to eventually end and bring another person or child(ren) into something that was not meant to be?

What works for some doesn't work for others.
I was commenting on your statement at the end of your post. That was the eye-opener. But, yes, I agree that some people are NOT marriage/parent material, and there's nothing wrong with that. However, some people ARE and don't want to give it a whirl.

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Old 12-30-2012, 02:26 PM
 
Location: Florida
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He runs solo, at his age he is not going to change. IMO, there is no point for him to get married, why should he?
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Old 12-30-2012, 03:08 PM
 
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I'm a woman and this is how I see myself at 50. Why should men have all the fun?
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Old 12-30-2012, 03:19 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Lets don't forget the exists a very toxic type of man who is 50 and single: the commitmentphobe. These are the guys who push things along romanticly at a break neck pace then eventually freak out and run. Or they string women along by acting like there may be a chance he will marry her and start a family but never follows through thanks to clever double talk. The last guy I dated lived with a woman for years, she finally broke up with him when she turned 39 and figured he would never marry him. I am quite sure he strung her along; when I broke up with him he sent me several lenghty emails explaining why I should continue be to see him, all filled with doubketalk and vague promises. I can see why someone might fall for them.
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